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I enjoyed reading the thread and hearing about the nature or ppls relationship with their father because that is a big part of my growth in going forward from here.
I am from a nuclear family - my folks are still married going on 50 years now(!). I don't really have a model for happiness in a binuclear family because I've just never been exposed to that kind of arrangement.
With the breakdown of my own marriage, part of my personal growth is to understand how to be happy outside of the nuclear family model. No papers have been filed as yet, there is no custody agreement as yet (basically I get to see them whenever I want and they overnight once a week).
My question: If you came from a divorced household, what kind of relationship did your father maintain with you through your childhood/adolesence and what is the nature of that relationship today? I've heard so many stories recently from mainly women who's father was a 'bad man' and really not a big part of their lives growing up or even now. There has to be some feel-good stories out there that I can look at as a model for an ideal co-parenting arrangement....
I always tell my kids I'll never leave them...ever. The word "abandonment" should not be in their vocabulary as far as 'daddy' goes. Please help!
I am from a nuclear family - my folks are still married going on 50 years now(!). I don't really have a model for happiness in a binuclear family because I've just never been exposed to that kind of arrangement.
With the breakdown of my own marriage, part of my personal growth is to understand how to be happy outside of the nuclear family model. No papers have been filed as yet, there is no custody agreement as yet (basically I get to see them whenever I want and they overnight once a week).
My question: If you came from a divorced household, what kind of relationship did your father maintain with you through your childhood/adolesence and what is the nature of that relationship today? I've heard so many stories recently from mainly women who's father was a 'bad man' and really not a big part of their lives growing up or even now. There has to be some feel-good stories out there that I can look at as a model for an ideal co-parenting arrangement....
I always tell my kids I'll never leave them...ever. The word "abandonment" should not be in their vocabulary as far as 'daddy' goes. Please help!
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After that, I hated my dad for what he put my mom through. I refused communication with him for several years. It wasn't until I was ready to get married that I started to mend fences with him, and see how different he was as a person.
I don't think I will ever forget what he did to my mom, but I admire how much he has changed, and how far he has come. He is a good person now. A good dad. And I love them both unconditionally.
I wonder sometimes if his easy approach to leaving is a result of growing up in a single parent household.
My father did have an affair but ended it when my mother threatened divorce.