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I sit here sobbing as I write this. I don't know what to do. I got back from the Rheumy a while ago today. I was diagnosed with not ONE, TWO, but THREE different things today. I have Fibromyalgia, Bursitis & Short hamstring Syndrome. PLUS I was told that I have to go see a Neurologist to find out what is causing the loss of feeling in my left leg. I am SO SCARED!~! I have NO health insurance. As you all know, my H & I have been having some major problems in our marraige. He aslo says that I am NOT HIS responsiblity. I am SO SCARED to tell him, as he is so worried about money, that I feel he will let my health issues come between our marriage & it will end. IF I were awarded SSDI, I wouldn't even get "$300.00 a month..... There is NO way that I can survice on that little bit of money... I don't know what to do!~! SOmeone please talk to me before I go off the deep end here!~!~! MY life is GOING TO HELL IN A HANDBASKET!~!
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I am so sorry that you had to receive this bad news. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
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I am so sorry, cat. I have fibro so I know the pain & fatigue involved. I don't know how how you have been married, but depending on your state laws, you should be able to get spousal support and have him cover your health ins costs. I had that written into my property settlement agreement. Please keep looking for resources in your area until you find a lawyer who will represent you pro bono - they can always recover their fess from you H. You can fight this. I know it will be hard, but you can do this!!!
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Let your husband know what is going on. If he is a good man he will do whatever it takes to help you! I will keep you in my prayers.

I don't know about insurance, wether or not there are any programs out there that can help out, maybe someone else can steer you in the right direction.
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These labels sound bad Cat, but sometimes amount to aches and pains, so don't panic. If you have an outpatient clinic attached to your hospital, go there and apply for a charity discount. They receive federal funds so have to cough up. There is usually a substantial discount right off the bat for the "self-insured", i.e., uninsured.

Do not tell your husband anything. He cannot be trusted, as you know. Talk to a legal aid lawyer.
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How can I NOT tell him, CGVL? That would be like living a lie, I can not do that. He deserves to know, even though I am scared. I do NOT keep things from him. Keeping secrets in a marriage, NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE, are futile....
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No, I don't think it is required in this case.

He is the reason you have no money or health insurance. You must prioritize and take care of yourself. I am imagining you are in some degree financially dependent upon him. He is a bolter.
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