I just got out of a 1 yr emotionally abusive relationship. He was a liar, manipulator, cheater. He was actually with another woman the whole time we were together. I wonder now if she was in on it. They had a baby together during the course of our relationship. When the baby was first born, I tried to reach out to her via email telling her i was a good person, we'll all do what's best for the baby etc. I got ignored. The boyfriend continued his bs and maniuplations with me. Emotional abuse is a strange thing...don't know why I stayed. But, anyways I caught him at her house 2x. The second time, I stopped in front of the house and honked the horn til he came out. I called him a cheater and spoke out loudly enough for her to hear him and i had sex the previous night. He pretended like i was crazy and we were never together and i made it all up. that was supposedly my last straw. i dumped him and filed a court case against him for breach of contract and emotional abuse. he settled out of court, of course, so she wouldn't find out. 3 weeks go by, i'm doing good. then, an absent minded co-worker brings in a newspaper picture of him with her and their little family. i went off, texted and called him...bad things...much swearing. But, that started conversation and crying and more promises from him. he brought me roses and took me out to dinner and said he was going to move back in with me. we even made up a contract and were scheduled to have it notarized the next day. well, the next day, i got stood up. i called her house and her dad said they went out to dinner together. What!!! i freaked. later, i went to his house, with the dozen, thorned, red roses and when he opened the door, i smacked him across the face with them until they were shredded. (it was a classic movie moment.) he still tried to convince me there was nothing going on, blah blah blah. so, i went home, made copies of everything from cel phone records to letters he wrote me, to the contract, and the court case and i put them in the mail to her. my revenge. he needs to be exposed. it won't change anything with them because she is stupid. the only thing is, he says he'll file harassment charges against me. he can't get off his ass to do anything else, i highly doubt he'll have enough motivation to do that. plus, i will claim temporary insanity due to his emotional abuse. i have proof. the thing is though.......all of this is totally out of character for me. i've never hit anyone in my life and i've always been able to just tell stupid guys to f off and walk away. i'm kinda scared of myself that i would do these things. i need help/support. is it just me or do crazy people make sane people do crazy things? should i be worried? advice? similar stories?
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