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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

lkc9528
Okay I have to share what I did tonight it might help you too. My man told me last night that he had cheated on me. No explanation no apology no nothing. In fact he justified it by saying I drove him to it. Since of course Im the only one working...blah...blah.
Anyway I cried my eyes out last night and thought I was going to have a breakdown...but today it came to me. He im-ed me and told me it was my fault again and all that. Not sex just comfort blah blah..even had the nerve to ask my why she might not have called him back!!!! As the anger grew my natural female evilness kicked in overdrive. Yes Im still hurting but decided if he was going to be that cruel so would I...and thank goodness we were im-ing....
I started to tell him that I had not always been faithful. And I slipped once too. Then I said of course we should be friends. Then began carrying on a conversation as if we hadnt had any of this happen. Now of course i've been loyal..not the point. I began to calmly ask questions about her. Joking and happy telling him I should approve. Then I told him someone had asked me out and I wanted his advice to see if I should. I went so far as to tell him we should double date....I had a smile on my face the whole time. He kept saying "dont you even care" "arent you mad about it". At that point I sucked it up and said "well, no I want you to be happy and if you arent happy with me then you SHOULD find someone else"...Needless to say I flipped it and he was feeling insecure and not so sure about what he wanted after all. I know lying is bad but what he did was far worse in my opinion. I had to find relief from feeling this way...AND I DID!!!!!
Anyway I cried my eyes out last night and thought I was going to have a breakdown...but today it came to me. He im-ed me and told me it was my fault again and all that. Not sex just comfort blah blah..even had the nerve to ask my why she might not have called him back!!!! As the anger grew my natural female evilness kicked in overdrive. Yes Im still hurting but decided if he was going to be that cruel so would I...and thank goodness we were im-ing....
I started to tell him that I had not always been faithful. And I slipped once too. Then I said of course we should be friends. Then began carrying on a conversation as if we hadnt had any of this happen. Now of course i've been loyal..not the point. I began to calmly ask questions about her. Joking and happy telling him I should approve. Then I told him someone had asked me out and I wanted his advice to see if I should. I went so far as to tell him we should double date....I had a smile on my face the whole time. He kept saying "dont you even care" "arent you mad about it". At that point I sucked it up and said "well, no I want you to be happy and if you arent happy with me then you SHOULD find someone else"...Needless to say I flipped it and he was feeling insecure and not so sure about what he wanted after all. I know lying is bad but what he did was far worse in my opinion. I had to find relief from feeling this way...AND I DID!!!!!

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Well done girl, very well done.

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I'm smiling and concerned at the same time but I'd be your surrogate/blind/plutonic double date. Just let me know when. I'm a good cover. scott

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Good for you girl! You did a good job!

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I'm new at this..my first response. Sorta seperated,( 1 week) husband said he didn't wasn't in love anymore. Have been married 24 years, known each other 30years. Still living together until our last child finishes his senior year in HS. (May 2008). My DH and I seperated 3 times and now again...oh well. One thing I have just learned ...I have taken control of MY feelings and how I deal with them...I decide if I want to talk to him and about what. I am in control and I won't call him except regarding the kids. I AM IN CONTROL OF ME!!! (sounds like you may be doing some of that yourself.) For me, it helps a lot!!!!

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I wished I had done that. Instead I broke down and wailed for months. Kudos to you.
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