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My wife told me yesterday she is done and wants a divorce. All I can think about is the pain I feel and hurting her.

I think I will put icy hot on her vibrators or maybe open up a habenero pepper and rub it all over them.
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Whoa,
that's creative,
but...
don't do anything that will hurt you later in divorce proceedings.
if you truly think you may hurt her, someone else, or yourself, get help.
It's okay to be pissed off.
It's not okay to hurt someone.

I suggest getting out of the house and hanging out with a friend. Someone that you can bitch about her with.
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I am a kdg teacher and my nonstop "catch phrase" i use at school applies here..."think it, but doooooon't say it!" lol
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Man, don't do it. It is okay to think of doing these things but what will it gain you in the end?
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remember chuck....take the high road no matter what. i know you feel like seeking revenge for what she has done to you and the fam, but you know what is right. btw...good idea anyway..hehe..and OUCH!
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I stayed in a lousy dangerous marriage because I was afraid of his reaction to me leaving. When I finally did leave, I had many restless nights of wondering if he was going to show up at my door being irrational. He at times would, and he'd make randomn
'not so funny' jokes about the harm he'd like to cause me...

So I hope u truly are just playing around, otherwise, that's pretty scary.
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Make all these wonderful plans in your head. Keep 'em there.

You're going to hear the bullsh*t "the best revenge is living well" about eighteen BILLION times....

But it surrreeee is fun thinking up serious-ass MacGyver type revenge plans....
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yes I know, It would never happen. I could never bring myself to actively cause her harm.
Southernmedic
Southernmedic
Trust me buddy, the absolute best revenge is to walk away, get happy and be successful. You may never see it, but that will drive her nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Chuckster, glad to hear that you wouldn't actually do anything to harm her.

I'm enjoying how all of my stbx's friends (and family) are now horrified by his behaviour.

They're taking my side. Not that I wanted anyone to take sides, I just wanted out.

It's still kind of gratifying to hear that others are now seeing what an ass he is.
And that his girlfriend is an ugly, unpleasant person.
Petty and yet so satisfying.
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Revenge does nothing, it just brings you down to their level it causes more harm and nothing else. I know many people agree with the thought of it. But that's where it should stay and a fleeting thought at that. Good luck and I wish you well.
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one night, while at band camp, i was thinking about if a bottle of Neet in the shampoo bottle would create the right Brittney Spears effect...LOL
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I know how you feel. The situation is outrageous. Vent when you need to.
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Umnn...ouch?!

Revenge will get you nowhere, seriously. It's nice to think about, but actually doing it..is..well..I dunno.
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Revenge is a dish best served cold.
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How about writing her a nasty letter venting all your feelings and then immediately destroy it and make sure she never sees it? Or vent plenty here.
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