Nope. Tempting though... I know.

It will feel good for a few seconds but you'll wish you hadn't later. You can't change the fact that she did this horrible thing to you. But, right now you're the good parent, the faithful parent, and you hold the moral highground. If you stay on the moral highroad and are there for your kids, you'll have years and years of revenge. These bad decisions always catch up with people and it's easier to watch if you didn't try to cause them.

Do you really think they are going to believe the man of a problematic relationship?

Wake up now because you're in for a surprise.

Don't do it... it will only make the hurt worse when you stup to there level

The best revenge is moving on and then complete indifference.. truuust me...

What goes around comes around.
I know it is hard to resist the temptation, but givin enough rope she will hang herself.

my 2 cents worth...like a friend told me leave her at the curb!

I think it's probably quite normal to feel like you do. Last week as I was leaving after just finding out about my ex cheating, I wanted to do be destructive to some of his things and I'm soooooo glad my best friend talked me out of it.

Mmmmm. I wouldn't. If she loses her job, wouldn't that hurt you too? I don't blame you for wanting the revenge. Infidelity is devastating. It devastated me too. I think it's really common to want revenge when you've been hurt and betrayed, but in the end the revenge won't really help. I keep reminding myself of a verse:

Romans 12: 17-21
17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay,"[d]says the Lord. 20On the contrary:
"If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."[e] 21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Ok, hear you guys. I will not. It is good to have all your opinions. I guess you are right. Her day will come.

I agree with everyone, don't do it. Yes, it is very tempting, you want your wife to feel every bit of pain that you feel. But honestly it wouldn't make a difference, the high you might get from it will be short lived. Nothing is going to change the fact that she cheated, so you need to channel the revenge energy into something more positive for you. You need to worry about you and the two boys that are in the middle of this, worrying about what she is doing at work is not going to help at all. Trust everyone here, they have been through it, they are the experts!! Good Luck.

What I try to remember, is that anything one of us does to the other, we are really doing it to the children. They are completely connected to us, and there is no way to lash out at their parent without hitting them.

PS why is she taking that stuff?

Don't lower yourself to her level. Revenge will be being happy again.

The Best Revenge is becoming a much better person than you are now. So Real Revenge kinda doesn't put a Plus in That column.