liable to be a Very Lonely Thread :-)

LOL I think you're right.. oh well

Is that crickets I hear? :)

LMFAO

The sound of the wind whistling through the cobwebs...

Ok....I'll break the silence here...

I can't say as I don't have any, cus I do, but ask me that question again in 12 months...I might have an answer.

The only one who might be able to respond to this are the ones who have moved on and found new happiness in a new established life and have completely buried the past.

...ok...continue with the crickets....

F**k the crickets LMAO..this has helped me and I hope this will give others support and help:
"Resentment is a mental process. With resentment, we repeatedly replay a feeling, and the events leading up to that feeling, that angers us.... With resentment, we re-experience and relive events in ways that affect us mentally, emotionally, physiologically and spiritually in destructive ways.

...What causes the unhappiness that underlies resentment?
a) What we feel people did to us that was unnecessarily mean, hurtful, and thoughtless
b) What people in our lives did not do for us that we feel they should have done
c) When we feel the people in our lives have not done enough for us

Holding resentments is choice. A choice to refuse to forgive; and unwillingness to let bygones be bygones.... We cling to a futile need to be right, which overrides the capacity to be at peace....usually because we don't know any other way to come to grips with the painful feelings of hurt, rejection, and abandonment."

With that introduction to what resentment is, what is the underlying cause, and why we hold onto them, here are the 10 Steps to letting go of resentment.

"1. Approach resentment as the addictive state of mind it is.
2. Realize that you are using resentment to replicate your family drama and maintain a connection with those dramas, a necessary acknowledgment before you can let them go.
3. Examine how your resentment may come from mentally confusing people in your present life with people in your past.
4. Acknowledge that you cannot control those who have rejected you.
5. Recognize that your resentment gives you only illusions of strength. Instead, highlight and validate your real strength and power.
6. Learn to identify the signals that provoke resentment.
7. Practice cognitive behavioral techniques to stop indulging in resentment. Put a thought between your feelings of resentment and indulging in ruminating about them.
8. Acknowledge your part in allowing the abuse to occur, forgive yourself for that, and make a decision to not let it occur again.
9. Declare an amnesty - with your family and with yourself.
10. Forgive when you can, and practice willful and deliberate forgetfulness when you cannot, keeping in mind that these acts are gifts to yourself rather than capitulation to those whom you resent."

After being used and abused and thrown a side like yesterdays refuse I have a lot of resentment towards the old succubus. I bent over back wards for her and got little or nothing in return. My reward for my loyalty love and forgiveness another trip down divorce hell.

Dang Crickets LOL

Well, I liked that enough to copy it into my personal journal for future reference. Although, at the moment, I'm holding onto my resentment. It's like a security blanket.

I'm afraid if I put it down I might experience some regret and right now I need to hang onto my resolve.

yea, I almost here those cicada's again from May around here............ But I agree with Paul, ask me in a year. Cause by then, he'll be broke, desitute, etc. No resentments then! LOL!

I plan to let the resentment go...about the time that the last installment is made :-D

When mine decides the children aren't weapons...then maybe.

I think that I will forever be resentful because of the betrayal. I am also resentful because this man still lies, has my child around crackheads and does not pay his child support. Resentful..nah not me.

I think some emotions are a waste of time. Like resentment, jealousy, true hated and even anger at times. That's just me, I guess.