I want input on relationships during separation. In my state, you have to be separated a year to get a divorce. I started dating someone a few months into his separation. He told me he would never consider taking his wife back after she left him for someone else. However, now that the issues with dividing (or selling) property is hitting the fan, he's decided he needs to explore the idea of taking her back (if she is willing - she has not said she is willing). I do know that it is very difficult to give up things you love and that it's worth just about anything to avoid the pain that will bring. He told me the other night that he knows that it won't work, even if she does agree to come back - that everyone he has every known who did that only bought a few more months before it was definitely final. I can be patient and understanding, because this is the neatest guy I've ever known in my life. We have had such an emotional/verbal/intellectual connection and can talk for hours on the phone - something I have never had with anyone. I feel our relationship is great all around. But I don't know how to feel about this. Should I give it consider just giving up on him or should I be patient. Should I take this other guy I know up on his offers to go out and get on with my life or give him plenty of room and let him figure out what he needs to figure out (and I do recognize the validity of figuring it out)? I really don't know which will be the best course to take. Does anyone have experience with something like this and how did it turn out? Any and all advice is welcomed!