I hope that one day mine does--I hope it haunts him day and night. I hope it gives him restless nights, and tears when he least expects them. I hope it gives him constant heartache.

I know my X regrets losing my daughter-Although he still blames me and the fact that he could not tolerate me anymore-he refuses to acknowledge that his choices led us down that path od destruction.I hope oneday he remembers all the kind loving things I did for him, the way I took care of him, the way I tried to make our marriage work-and it haunts him-I doubt it though, narcissists rarely look back and blame themselves.

my stbx thinks he has found the life he lost when we decided to get married and have children! He doesn't yet grasp what he has willing given up. I am not sure that he ever will.

Oh I hope one day mine looks back and feels remorse for the farm that we had and the animals that were there and the good clean life we had! But she won't, she can't see past her nose or past her desires!

My x regrets his actions, only because he lost half of everything he worked so hard for.

He won't admit he's lonely, etc. But sure acts like it.

Hmmm. My X has said this to me recently. I believe they do realize what they gave up. It's sad that it's too late when that happens though.
Whether or not I believe any of the other crap that he's saying is another story.

My parents divorced almost 35 years ago. I think my bio-dad is finally starting to realize what he lost; it wasn't all his fault, but he didn't do nearly as much as he could, and he wanted everything to be on his terms or no deal.

Now he thinks he can make up for all that lost time by trying to raise me. Well, I'm done being "raised". Hell, my kids are almost done being raised.

But yes, now that he's facing his mortality, I think he has a lot of regrets.

Also, my step-dad has 3 children I've never met. I think he has a lot of regrets too, although that subject is entirely off limits in my family.

Damn, I hate secrets.

I really hope that mine does...not because anything (except his relationship with his children) can be salvaged but because right now, he's proven himself to be someone of very little morals and values. This man has NO idea that his DD14 (freshman) has a 16 yo bf who is a senior...very quiet, nice young man. He has no idea how his children spend their lives day to day. No idea that they are going with their aunt this weekend to an amusement park...no idea about what books they are reading...no idea DD has changed her mind once again about her career path...no idea DS has so many boys to play with in our new neighborhood. He's never seen their rooms and doesn't know that each has a laptop computer now. I'm not sure he even cares. But maybe one day, it will hit him...when DD asks someone else to walk her down the aisle on her big day, when DS swears that he'll be a better dad than the one that he had as he holds his new baby in his arms...maybe then he'll see.

Mine says he does but he is so heartless right now with everything he is doing I don't know if he really knows what he is doing. I think when this all goes down and gets final. It is going to hit him really hard. I hope he does regret that he did miss allot and that he can not get the time he missed back. I am sorry if I sound cold. I don't mean to. But mine has no good reason for leaving nor did he even give us a chance, just left after 15 years.

it is unbelieveable that they didnt figure out the losses before they left..mine lost all he worked for in med school and four kids. loser!!

usually people who leave relationships are for their own reasons. the family concerns are not their concern. i've learned this the hard way, as recent as last night...
you'll just have to pick up slack where there isn't the help from the othe party and the kids will pick up on who they can rely on, and who'll be the party buddy. in the end, you come out ahead. don't worry about the other person and what they lost. they simply don't care.

I honestly dont know if my x regrets losing what he threw away, from the outside it looks to me like he is too bus having his signle life fun to worry about me or our kids

What I really dispise most about the divorce is the effect on my girls and also knowing that some of MY time with THEM has now been lost. They will also grow up in a nontraditional (but becoming more traditional) home with just one parent. That is sad.

Mike
Its the same for me. I didn't leave my first marriage by choice, but I look back and wish I could have had them in my life on a daily basis. Its not fair that I had to miss so much of their growing up. Things I was never able to experience with them. Things I will never get to experience with them. Time lost that can never be made up.

I really hope that someday he realizes what he lost. I hope it haunts him and he can never find the peace he wants. I hope that his money(his reason for wanting to get a divorce, because I am a stay at home mom and wont go back to work right now) can keep him warm at night. Even though he is going to have a lot less of it when this is all said and done. I hope that he can live with himself when his children resent him for not being around.

Right now I am very angry at him and have no pity for him. He wants out and he is going to have to live with what he missed.