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How many here have attempted reconciling at least once?
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I remember the days when I wished this would happen.

Boy was I stupid back then. This time away from him has given me such clarity. Although maybe I'm one of the lucky few b/c I haven't spoken to him in over 2 months. Not one word. I think this has helped me immensely.
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Me. I have. Still on that rollercoaster ride.
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My husband is getting the help he needs and we are in the process of reconciling. It is going to be a long bumpy road.
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Not me - I can not imagine chancing putting either of us through the pain of loosing each other again!
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we did nine years ago after being seperated for almost a year.

now we are right back where we were then. there will be no reconciling this time around.
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Once here. Turned into identical situation. I think she was just getting a little more seniority for court rules.
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We have reconciled twice and he wants to again. How can I take him back again. He has betrayed my trust and cant keep the promises he has made. I would love to say that we could make it but I really dont think we will.

So yes I have reconciled twice and neither time it worked
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Even though I wanted it in the beginning he didn't. We never tried and never will. It is too late. I could never forgive him for all of the pain and agony he has caused me. No matter of work could fix the destruction he has caused. I know some day he will be back. It is too late now and it will be too late then.
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There was one 'solid' attempt at reconciliation and it was right after the divorce papers. I got texts saying 'did you ever feel like you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone?' and I fell in. 4 days later, she was back in the arms of another. I was stupid as well.
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Nope - I've learned I can't trust her, even if she did want to reconcile
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Yes. Did it work? No.
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I gave her the chance even though she cheated on me but she thew it away.
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Tried once after initial seperation, then another time after he filed for divorce...we just recently entered in a divorce settlement. Oh well, so much for trying!
DebbieC817
DebbieC817
We reconciled once 3 years ago after his first affair. Stayed together until August of this year. I could never regain the trust back, and he continued to have affairs. So, now we are divorcing.
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I don't know if it counts...

X asked for divorce, we floundered for several months, then all of the sudden he wanted everything back the way it was... he was all lovey-dovey, etc. Turns out, this is when he found out OW was dying.

Once I had proof of OW, (3 months after she died) we separated, and have not looked back...
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