Just say NO! :)

lol umm no not a smart move....think of it like this he is an ex for a reasion....

i read your jounal and i'm with you in your last sentence, thats what God wants for you. i must laugh at the leader of your group, apparently, he/she has not been through what you have.

I would not be happy either. I had some people tell me I should take him back when I first separated from him. But then he started letting his true colors show to everyone, and they all said do not take him back.

It wasn't so much the leader,
the way the group works is that you talk and then watch a video each week.
It was the video that pissed me off.
And really the rest of the group too.

Did you point out all the other things God wants? Like how men are to treat their wives and vise versa.

Another example of...."if ya don't know it, don't teach it".

Everybody else in the group thought it was crap also.
So I wasn't alone in my seething anger.

I just think God wants us happy. I think he gives fuck all about us getting back together with our stbx's. I dunno, I guess I see God as having a sense of humor and if it didn't work with a stbx, he'd say, "Why would ya be goin back there again? Do ya like beatin your head against the wall Carolyn?" ...Well of course not God!

I knew there was a reason I keep deciding every Monday night to not go to the divorcecare group by my house..... if God wants me back with that idiot, then he is not a loving or caring God, he is a vengeful God.

My advice would be to go. It really has helped me.
But skip the night about reconciliation.

I am in Divorce Care and up to this point it has been good. I did read ahead in the book and saw the chapter on reconciliation.

They do not take into account what we have dealt with on an individual basis. I am not looking forward to that night and may not go.

Your group may be better led than mine.
They did say that reconciliation can mean, just not being hateful to each other.

I am glad I wasn't there, it is so hard to hear that crap when you are trying to accept being done. I guess it is the church's one last ditch effort to thwart another divorce. I think for many people by the time they get to the support group they are way past reconciliation. God does not want us to be miserable. In a perfect world a marriage would include two fully committed people willing to work through anything together...sorry to say I don't know if that world exists in this country anymore. Many people take marriage too lightly. I had a partner who did not have any interest in working on our marriage and you can't fix it on your own.
Sorry you sat through a night of horrors lol! For some people it is just the thing they needed to hear, I would not be one of those people though and neither would you. We would be the ones heading out the door for chips and margaritas at the local bar, great therapy in a different way lol! Hugs.

ok sara...now i'm laughing...thanks! ahhhh...great thoughts/post!

I don't need divorce care to hear that crap - Anne7676 - you crack me up. My stbx is the schmuck a.k.a. f**k head that is telling my counselor what God's will is - as if HE would know. Pressing the ignore button again.