Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have read many posts that have the same theme with folks wondering if they should consider reconciliation, repair, and renewal of their marriages. I too have considered this question and I came up with the following truth.
Before we consider any kind of repair and healing process in our relationships, we first have to define and diagnosis the person who broke their marriage vows. Is he, or she on drugs? We must know this, because if drugs are involved, a degree of difficulty will be present. Is he, or she a malignant narcissist, or a sociopath, or a psychopath? If the person in question has any one these tremendous problems, would you want to be intimate with such a person now that you know what they are?
The next step is to look in the mirror and ask ourselves the same questions. Do we have these traits, or not? If so then what do we do? The answer to these questions are going to be tough.
My question to the community is would you want to consider reconciliation with someone who is a true psychopath, or sociopath?
Thank you.
Mo...
Before we consider any kind of repair and healing process in our relationships, we first have to define and diagnosis the person who broke their marriage vows. Is he, or she on drugs? We must know this, because if drugs are involved, a degree of difficulty will be present. Is he, or she a malignant narcissist, or a sociopath, or a psychopath? If the person in question has any one these tremendous problems, would you want to be intimate with such a person now that you know what they are?
The next step is to look in the mirror and ask ourselves the same questions. Do we have these traits, or not? If so then what do we do? The answer to these questions are going to be tough.
My question to the community is would you want to consider reconciliation with someone who is a true psychopath, or sociopath?
Thank you.
Mo...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Why would I possibly want a new life when I could go back to hell?
No, no, no, no, NO
I'm on a path to heal myself. Moving forward, not backwards.
And I do understand that some people can repair their marriages. I wish them well.
I just know that mine is over and i need to let it be over.
I know think about how our relationship fell appart due to my husbands in ability to communicate, tolerate stress and his progressive porn addiction. It had terrible effectson my selfesteem. A miracle would have to happen for this to be a healthy arrangement. But I would welcome it if God saw it fit. But I see no signs of that happening for now. So moving forward and not looking back.
If you want reconciliation and repair of your relationship, then you MUST FIRST work on yourself.
You must clear any judgments and ill feelings. You must not expect anything from the other person, just accept them as they are. You must not attempt to make them see their faults or take blame.
People are as perfect as they are fallible. It's not up to you to say they are right or wrong. It's up to you to accept them and be there - or not. To truely love them - or not.
Learn to make better decisions for YOUR life, not theirs. That's why you should consider working on yourself - unless you're already perfect and infallible.
So no, will be fine, when I find myself again. Anyone who can look you in the face, and tell you BS, is not worth a second guess.