My boyfriend and i have been together a little over a year. He pursued me for a long time and I finally gave him a chance. I was surprised by how different he was than what i originally thought. I thought he was going to be the player type but he is very much a family person and has a good heart. We fell very much in love with each other and over time began to have stupid fights that were mostly based on jealousy and the atmosphere we worked in (we both worked in a nightclub). He has said some very mean things to me when we have fought and he can be very cold. when i fight i get very emotional and really just want him to see my pain and show me some compassion. He would rather turn off his emotions and ignore the problem. If it wasn't for the way we communicate when we fight we would have no problems. We have so much fun together doing the simplest things and we are more than just boyfriend and girlfriend we are Friends. He tells me all the time that i am his dream girl and he has loved me since the day he met me.The people we both become when we fight is not how either of us wants to be. So here is my problem, A few weeks ago we had a fight, i was very intoxicated and probably being too emotional, and as always he was shutting down like he does. My anger boiled over and i hit him. Not just a slap, i really lost my temper and went crazy. We broke up the next day and he just doesn't see me the same. He said he is scared to be with me and what i did is like cheating to him. Remind you i am half his size and really could not hurt him although im sure i did that night. Now he doesn't want a girlfriend. He has told me he wants to marry me and we have made so many plans for our future. I thought i had met the one. I am willing to work through our problems if he would just give us another try. He is not willing to and i don't know what i can do to make him realize what he is throwing away is not worth it because we can have such a great future together. He told me that he is still in love with me but he does not want to be together at this time and doesn't know if he ever will. He wants to be friends still and exchange x-mas gifts. Does anyone think he will come around in time and realize what a great girl he had. He can't seem to get past how i reacted during that fight. I am not proud of how i acted and now realize that alcohol has played a major role in our fighting. I just don't want to throw away all we could have over something that i know we can work past. I know in my heart if he could learn to discuss our issues when we have an argument and be supportive of one another instead of against each other we would be able to get through anything. Any advice is welcome. thanks :)
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