I've always jumped right from one serious relationship to another. I had just broken off an engagement a few weeks before I met my current husband. We were married for five years, and then he told me he wanted to have an open marriage. We separated four months ago and are in the process of getting a divorce. Meanwhile, I've already gotten involved in a new relationship that's gotten serious already. I've been reading a lot about emotional dependence, and I'm certain that I have a serious issue with this. I've been trying to spend more time alone, but it's a challenge. I suppose I'm scared to face myself. I know that I have many unresolved feelings about my failed marriage. Instead of dealing with that, I've been distracting myself. The guy I'm currently with is wonderful--incredibly caring, sensitive, considerate--a good, good guy. The problem is, I'm having second thoughts about being with him. I'm scared to tell him because I don't want to hurt him. It's also impossible for me to determine at this point if my change of heart where he is concerned stems from years of emotional dependence and confusion about myself and the unresolved hurts from the marriage that's not even officially over yet. He is such a rare, quality person... I don't want to make any hasty decisions, but my intuition is telling me that it's not right for us to be together right now. I don't know what to do!
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