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This is funny. i know he is staying with me so that he can receive his american passport which would be in 2 yrs but he hates me. i dont seem to get it though. we dont live together, i stopped talking to his family, he made it clear he hates me. he took my apt keys away, i live with my parents and 3moth old daughter. he tries to be nice but it comes off so fake. can someone please tell me why i cant let this man go? when will i reach the point where i can sleep without sleeping pills or stay awake w/o coffee? my mom says when i get a great job then he will regret losing me.Shit, this is soooooooo pain. in a perfect world,i would have absolutely no feelings for him.i would attend his next wedding w/o a ounce of remorse or love for him.
he is a coward ,he wont admit that he is only calling me his wife to get his citizenship(which i have already cancelled w/o his knowledge). what should i do when he comes to my apt? should i call him or pick his calls? should i leave when he comes to the apt? it hurts to see or hear from him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
btw, he doesnt sleep w/me, give me money or even ask about my life
deleted_user
deleted_user
i have a feeling he might have a 2nd wife back home in his country
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why are you staying?
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's prob best to work through all these feeling. Stop taking sleeping pills, I though about taking them as well when my stbx and I split. But some nice women on here told me thats no way to live. The pain will lessen. If u think he is using u he prob is and u deserve better just remember that. Do the no contact thing it works, i didn't think it would but it did.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i keep thinking if i dont contact him , ill suffer more. i need sleeping pills. i am thinking of downing a bottle of wine with tynenol pm, maybe one i get out of that sleep ill feel better. do i sound irrational? i must. is there hope that i can stop contact
hockeymom5592
hockeymom5592
Don't let him in your life if all you get is pain. That's a no-brainer. We all deserve happiness, including you. Don't attach your star to a sinking ship....
deleted_user
deleted_user
After all you've done, and he's being a totally mean, unappreciative, inconsiderate user. Every good deed deserves another, and he obviously doesn't want to accept his responsibility to live this way. Don't answer his call! Avoid him at all costs! He's like a slippery snake that will try to worm his way in when he realizes that he's not getting his way. Keep your head up! A good person like you doesn't deserve to be treated like this by some user!
deleted_user
deleted_user
before i use to be skeptical of this sort of site and its possibility in helping me but im such a believer today.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think in the long run u will feel better if u stop talking to him. If u keep calling and seeing him it's only going to prolong the pain. You dont sound irrational al all. You sound like ur heart is broken. You should find a friend to go out with get ur mind off things and have a good time>
deleted_user
deleted_user
last night he came over and he pretended to be concerned about me. he sat on my comp and did research. when he was leaving i walked him out, he kissed me on my forehead and patted me on my butt and left. i stupidily called him on his cellphone, it was he who use to call me but now i did. he had nothing to say to me and kept yawning. i asked him to tell me where we stood and he said if he didnt want me as his wife he would have already divorced me. im going crazy with his coldness. he wouldnt admit he cant stand me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
what am i afraid of? im afraid he will stop loving me but too late, i am afraid he might leave me for another--maybe he already has. iam afraid of being alone, i already am. im afraid of being the loser, i already am, then people tell me what the hell is wrong with me?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your mom is right. It's his loss. You do know that you have the right to file for divorce? If he's only staying with you to get his citizenship, why are you allowing that to happen? He'll get his citizenship anyway even if you file for divorce.
I'm dealing with my fear of being alone too. It's difficult but once you overcome that fear, you'll feel so empowered.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hon, you gotta try with the no contact rule...it is hard, but i think that would be a good start
deleted_user
deleted_user
you are a really rough stage right now..part denail, part wanting to move on..we'll help ya find the strength to get thru this..just talk to us!
deleted_user
deleted_user
he wont get it because i went to ins and told them he used me for his greencard and they told me theyd withdraw my petition. i am sooooooo happy about that. what an evil world this has become where i find joy in someone elses misery. although he started it, i just wish he had loved me instead of this.
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