I havent started dating yet,
but I am not going for looks when I do start, beauty is important I agree, but it needs to be inside and out, if you go based just on the outside, sometimes the inside is ugly once you know it fully

http://youtube.com/watch?v=RcZo7ZxpNkE

i feel ur pain

I am so sorry. I know that I have heard others talk about this also. Maybe it will help to see that the beauty of the outside is sometimes not matched to the beauty on the inside. But the realization of losing someone who was so beautiful to you must really hurt. Sorry for you pain.

You don't sound ready to date. (((((((((((Maui)))))))))))))

I am praying for you. I know first hand about the pain. It may not be the beauty thing, but the fact that you spent your time, energy and money on someone else and trying to go out with someone else just does not feel right.

My ex is very good looking but he has some very ugly ways and habits.

Bullshit. You cannot afford to have those feelings if you are going to be a "player" and attract and retain the type of person you truly desire. I would like you to consider being a "wingman" and brushing up on your skills as a "player." Seduction. Use it wisely, and never heart a girls heart, or burn a bridge. Your little black-book will grow, and you will have a good reputation on the street. No man, or women can afford to have "wussy" thoughts that damage our self esteem, riddle us with fear, and keep us at home eating corn-chips and ice cream. We are all worthy, good looking, and have plenty to offer another person. The key is to learn how to weed out the "flakes" and never get attached to a BCWDA again.

Bro,I know exactly how you feel.
My son told me my ex is on facebook alot so I just had to look....bad move...she looked so beautiful and happy while I sit at home feeling like crap.
She moved out a year ago and I am not ready to date yet,you might not be either.
Sounds like you are still in love with your ex like I am,sorry you are dealing with this I know its hard

I agree with jlk, you aren't ready to date if your still hung up on the ex. Do yourself and the women you would consider dating a favor and wait until your ready.

It's an intresting dilema. From my perspective, I'm afraid of the rejection of not being beautiful enough. Of not being "worthy" in the eyes of a potential date. Some men say it's not about beauty and outward apperances, but it obviously is.

Alone,remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder,many might say my ex is just ok looking but to me she is beautiful because I still love her

The first time I met someone for coffee, I felt like I was cheating. I cried myself to sleep as well...

I don't compare men physically to him, but I compare their personality and accomplishments. And by personality I mean the pre-cheating man I knew.

It will get easier, you may actually start looking forward to meeting new people.

Don't put her (your x) on a pedestal, no one is perfect...

What is beautiful if she leaves you? If she breaks your heart? If you end up lying in bed at night crying of Loneliness? If she crushes your dreams?

The most beautiful woman in the world will be the one that stands by my side and understands that we will face the world together. Now that would be a beautiful woman.

well put rob. that is what a friend just told me. thanks so much

I guess I wasn't "IT" because I don't have fake breasts, bleached hair and a full time job doing porn. Why doesn't anyone find an intelligent, kind, gentle, patient, peace loving, self-controlled person who is well groomed and has their priorities straight attractive?

reply #14 - What would your reply be to someone if they had written your very words?

I'm sure you would tell them to stick to their values, because they are worthy. There are a zillion men that would appreciate and love what you have to offer.