Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It's bad enough that he asked for a divorce and asked me to be the one to file it. He moved to another state, started a new relationship, and now thinks I need to continue to support him!
I have tried repeatedly to get ahold of him to get things put in order so this divorce goes quickly and smoothly with no luck. The only time I hear from him is when he wants money. I refuse to give him any.
The ass left me with no money and no job, I have been lucky and smart enough to get by thus far. I can not and will not support him. He has a job and it is not my fault that he is unable to budget his money. Is there somewhere in the marriage agreement that I must continue to support him after he has left? If there is please fill me in because I must have skipped over that part.
All I want is for this divorce to be final and to be rid of bad rubbish. I am tired of hurting and the anger I feel everyday!
I have been told that he is getting back into some really bad things. Though I love him and care about him I don't have the energy to help him right now. I am trying desperately to heal this huge gash in my heart. Trying to figure out how to go on now that he won't be a part of my life. The stress of all this is about to land me in the hospital.
I am all that my kids have, not that he would care since they are mine and not his. My kids don't need the added stress of mom having to be hospitalized on top of his leaving.
I am moving to boot, only have 28 more days till I am due to be on the road to my new destination.
Please tell me this gets easier, that I am not going to lose my mind, and that the pain will go away. I am finding it very hard to beleive right now and I really need some major support.
I have tried repeatedly to get ahold of him to get things put in order so this divorce goes quickly and smoothly with no luck. The only time I hear from him is when he wants money. I refuse to give him any.
The ass left me with no money and no job, I have been lucky and smart enough to get by thus far. I can not and will not support him. He has a job and it is not my fault that he is unable to budget his money. Is there somewhere in the marriage agreement that I must continue to support him after he has left? If there is please fill me in because I must have skipped over that part.
All I want is for this divorce to be final and to be rid of bad rubbish. I am tired of hurting and the anger I feel everyday!
I have been told that he is getting back into some really bad things. Though I love him and care about him I don't have the energy to help him right now. I am trying desperately to heal this huge gash in my heart. Trying to figure out how to go on now that he won't be a part of my life. The stress of all this is about to land me in the hospital.
I am all that my kids have, not that he would care since they are mine and not his. My kids don't need the added stress of mom having to be hospitalized on top of his leaving.
I am moving to boot, only have 28 more days till I am due to be on the road to my new destination.
Please tell me this gets easier, that I am not going to lose my mind, and that the pain will go away. I am finding it very hard to beleive right now and I really need some major support.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Of course you don't owe it to him to support him; sounds like you are dealing with mental illness, addiction, or both. Take care of yourself and the kids; he is not your responsibility. ((hugs)) You are not alone.
I know I am not alone here, and I am very grateful for that. You are right there are times when that 3 meals prepared my anyone but me sounds great. I'm trying to stay focused on my future and it sometimes gets really blurry. ((Hugs to you as well))
Silly happy4 - you rock!
"There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean, Hang Up the Phone!.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left.
The Bible says "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." (1 John 2:19)
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
LET THEM GO
It doesn't mean that they are a bad person; it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when peoples' part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something - I've got the gift of good-bye. Its the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop beggin people to stay.
LET THEM GO....