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"SHE" is sleeping in my bed

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Well, last weekend SHE officially moved in with my ex. She has my house, my furniture, my dog, and my kids (every second week). This doesn't really make me sad. BUT, it's a big secret. He has told our kids not to tell me that SHE is living there. The kids told their grandmother who in turn told me. Then last night when I was talking to them, my daughter started to say something about it and stopped. That is what makes me so sad. Why do they have to hide it? She is a nice lady and my kids really like her. I have nothing against her. Actually I feel sorry for her for getting mixed up with such an idiot. Sigh!
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Tell him you know and, for the kids sake, don't want them being responsible for secrets. That's not good for them.
I think you're being very grown-up. Good for you.
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Okay, it is WRONG WRONG WRONG for him to ask your kids to lie to you. You need to clear that up with him right now. That burdens them in so many ways emotionally. You are very much taking the high road and deserve to be commended for that but he should not be asking your kids to do that. ((((((((((HUGS))))))))
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It is GREAT that you are getting away from him if this is the standard for behavior with the kids.....My husband is a new man since he met new woman..... and I have no wish ti even speak to him now, but for 18 years he was the light of my life......so every day, I die a little over what once was.
I am glad for your sense of calm and security.... if you have extra, pls send it to boyd......
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definitely he has not put the kids' interest before his. and way to go with putting things into perspective.

confront him soon, but do it when the kids are not around or when he has your undivided attention
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