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I suspect infidelity-
He's in Advertising, and it's odd to have dinner with a client on a Monday night. Last Monday night he had a client dinner on Monday night as well, got home at 9pm, and the first thing he did when he got home was eat. (And he was wearing street clothes--sneakers & a baseball hat--not quite the proper client wear).
But, this is not the issue. What hurts most is that last night we had our big discussion, where in I said that I didn't want to give up. And wanted to give it one more committed try. He said he wants to move out, and has been planning to be a single father for a long time. But he still wants to leave it open in case in a few months we both decide to reconcile. The ol' wait and see.
Is it that he has someon eelse, and wants to see if it fails first before giving us a try? Do I confront him? Although, I know he won't give me an honest answer. Do I let it go since it is moot right now? I just wonder if there may be someone who is the cause of his apathy, and not wanting to give it one more try. I need to know just so that I can let go, and begin to heal.
He's in Advertising, and it's odd to have dinner with a client on a Monday night. Last Monday night he had a client dinner on Monday night as well, got home at 9pm, and the first thing he did when he got home was eat. (And he was wearing street clothes--sneakers & a baseball hat--not quite the proper client wear).
But, this is not the issue. What hurts most is that last night we had our big discussion, where in I said that I didn't want to give up. And wanted to give it one more committed try. He said he wants to move out, and has been planning to be a single father for a long time. But he still wants to leave it open in case in a few months we both decide to reconcile. The ol' wait and see.
Is it that he has someon eelse, and wants to see if it fails first before giving us a try? Do I confront him? Although, I know he won't give me an honest answer. Do I let it go since it is moot right now? I just wonder if there may be someone who is the cause of his apathy, and not wanting to give it one more try. I need to know just so that I can let go, and begin to heal.
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It sure sounds like he's cheating. I would go with the separation and if he's willing to marriage counseling? I think that will provide the answer you seek. If he is cheating or wants it to end, he will not go to counseling. To tell you the truth, he may be too chicken to tell you outright that he found someone else. I would also find out what the laws in your state say about separation and if you really felt it was necessary, get a lawyer. This doesn't mean your marriage is over but you need to protect yourself for the sake of your boys.
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I agree with BCw3. I smell a rat. And I wished I'd smelled one when I was married. The counseling is truly the key. If he refuses that suggestion, he's already gone. Don't let him throw it all back on you. Be strong!
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Sounds like a cheater. Do you really want to know if he is cheating, for yourself, or your own peace of mind, or whatever? I agree to try the counseling. His answer will tell you what you want to know! Take care!~P
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I don't really know about the cheating part but it does sound fishy. I know you are curious. I think the biggest thing is you are hanging on to someone he isn't willing to work on mutually. He's ready to move out and has been preparing to be a single father. Start taking care of you and the child(ren). Love yourself even if he doesn't. Follow your gut, something's going on. Let him make his own mistakes...
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