
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Okay, so my divorce is approaching within a few weeks. I don't know for sure when because my lawyer and his lawyer are meeting tomorrow for some sort of meeting with a judge. My stbx has sent me two proposals of what he think we should do about some things. I can pick one or two. Hmmmmm....I guess he thinks he is still in control?????? I'm still the doormat and I can choose what I want to do but I don't want either one. I won't bog you down with the yucky details. Anyway, I got the proposals on Monday and he emails me on Wednesday wanting to know what I want to do or if I have any questions. STUPID, STUPID, ME! I can't stand that he hasn't completely stuck the knife all the way through my heart. I decide to offer him one last chance to come home. I tell him we can still work on our marriage if he will go with me to marriage counseling and also go see a doctor for some other problems he has been going through for about 5 years. I told him that we all missed him Thanksgiving and would love to have him back with us for Christmas. I wrote my heart out. So.....he writes back and tells me he hates reading long emails and that it was the same old stuff and it was "beating that dead horse". Hmmmm....I guess that is what our marriage is to him. A dead horse! Okay, a lot of you ask when will you get over "him". I got over him after reading that email. It hurt like heck and I cried of course. But, after a little while I got madder than I have since he left. Now, I know it is really over and I am moving on as soon as the divorce is final. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt for so many months. I have known him since I was 16 years old and I am 57 now. I thought I knew him better than anyone. Well...I don't want to know this person. I don't like this person. I don't want to be around this person. He is now dead to me. I will probably continue to grieve for my kids and grandkids. I wanted them to have so much in the way of family and home. That is not to be so now it is finally over. I hope all of you that are hurting will come to this point soon. It has taken me almost a year and a half.
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Hugs to you!
As the pain seeps away, look around at the Joy of Christmas and a future full of your family kids and grandkids!!
Bless you for seeing the trap.
It is OVER!
so.. time for you.. time for you to move forward.. head up.. be the strong woman that you know you are inside... move forward.
Get on with your life.
Bury the damn Dead Horse.
I posted the letter in my journal and most said not to send it. I am still torn. I am not sure due to my particular circumstances that I and the family could take him back. But it seems right to make one last attempt. He is living with the OW he slept with off and on with for the last two years. He left 7 months ago I cut off contact three months ago. I am afraid he will just think I am being spiteful, but I don't want to be his friend, only want communication if he wants to reconsider.
Anyway, didn't mean to ramble. There are many similarities between our circumstances. I thought I knew him too. My daughter said that person is dead, and we got the best years.
It is good to move on now. Unlike him, I will wait until it is final before I even entertain the notion of looking at another.
Best of luck to you. Sorry for your pain.