My wife quite on me by cheating. She says its just me she quite on but no! Its our family. If we tried to work on this then it would be mutual. I mean even just sit down talk about what we are unhappy with and work on it and then seek help together. Thats all. Yet if one spouse is first of all caught then professes this other man who was already introduced to the children weeks before she was caught and has been out with him and his house etc. blah blah blah sorry rambling. Basically she quit. Why would I have to worry about seeing and talking too my children. Why would I worry about paying her for anything. I want my children, and be willing to do joint.

Yet I have been told in most states including Alabama, infidelity does not affect custody battles. When it should not anything to do with being fit. Just with Justice. Since I am the one who wants to work on holding the family together and she hasn't/doesnt even tried why should she have the luxury of seeing the kids essentially keeping the kids. Hearing there playing having that full bond with them, that I have to either take off work, or have that at least initially awkward feel every time I see. Them you know?
Basically the place they go most times where mommy is home. Daddy lives someplace else and we visit. That is unfair.