
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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My H had an (emotional)A w/ a coworker, 4 months ago. Many hours on hours of talking and texting for two months. They work third shift together. He says it's over and there is no more contact. Him quitting (as he's told me) his job is out of the question. I'm leaning on him changing shifts will not happen either. Say, I can not accept this; I'm trying, right NOW, I'm OK; but, let's say it starts eating at my again and I can't. The temptation is too real, too close, too easy in my book. Has anyone decided on divorce, gone through with it and, now regret it? What is the pain going to be like? Divorce, right now, is NOT what I want, but, is an option I have to deal with this. I am starting couseling soon to get my thoughts together. I'm just trying to get facts, thoughts from both sides. I speak, often, with all on infidelity posts. Thought I'd get opinions here. Has anybody regretted choosing D over accepting the lifestyle they had? Like I said, just wondering... do that a lot these days. thanks
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The pain of divorce is pretty awful, even if the marriage was awful. Even if you KNEW it was coming and had years to prepare...there is no getting around it.
Lifestyle is the very Last thing to consider. You are looking at your Life Partner right now and You have a Choice.
On the other hand, Trust is an issue and you need that guidance from the couselor.
I stayed through everything-it wasn't the healthy thing to do. It was what I knew to do. Abuse and/or Cheating really are reasons to move on.
I think the most commonly heard feedback re: sticking with an infidel is the fact that the other party doesnt feel that they can meet someone new. Hogwash, say I.
Hours and hours of talking and texting means he had a lot of emotional free time on his hands. That is something you could both grow closer together with if helped by good counseling.
On the other hand, if he was having sex with a co-worker, you may not ever get over it.
Either way, your boundaries have been crossed, and trust has been broken. Falling back into love will be a gigantic effort. This is my opinion.
I have had to deal with this issue for the past 6 years and there is no going back for me. I know that I deserve someone who will cherish me, love me! You deserve that too. I will not regret my decision to get a divorce. I want to be healthy, happy person and being in this marriage is not contributing to that one bit. I pray that you make the decision that is right for you.
Save cash. get your own safety deposit box, start collecting paperwork... making palns... upgrading your schooling...
It was her decision to file for divorce. She had emotionally divorced me in her head years before she finally filed. I was still in love with her 6 months after the divorce was final. I am content in the knowledge that I did what I needed to in order for me to be at peace with MYSELF.
I have since been able to fully let go of the feelings I had for her and I am happier and more at peace than I have been in years. I suggest you search your thoughts and determine what it is you need ... then talk to your spouse and let him know what it is you need. I would not wish the pain of divorce on my worst enemy but sometimes it is necessary. Good luck.
I just wish I had followed thru and listen to my little voice.. and divorced him back in 1993.
I found out most recently that he was a Big Time Cheater. It hurts big time....hurts having to admit that this is happening to your relationship.