
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
You need to realize that there is nothing wrong with you! You had no control over it. It's not an easy conclusion to come to either. It took me years to understand this (with the help of a good friend). Don't bet yourself up over this!
Enter husband # 2. Tells me how beautiful I am . Marries me. I swear the same day I married him I turned into a real pig. He never stopped putting me down & especially after I got pregnant the first time. I was a lucky pregnant woman whose husband told her she was ' Too gross to sleep with now'.
I know now that men who feel really inadequate make their partner feel that way because it is the ONLY way they can feel good about themselves.
On the bright, this feeling too shall pass!
Affairs happen for all kinds of reasons, none of them justifiable. Cheaters often blame the other spouse for the affair, that is typical and normal.
My H had an affair. When initially confronted, he tried that lame crap of blaming me for HIS CHOICE. Said it was because I did this, I didnt do that, I never said this, I never said that. No matter what we do, dont do, say, dont say, give or dont give, we cant control another persons actions.
Once the shock wears off, its better to get a handle on what is really going on.
Stay strong~
I would like to say that you are not going insane. I think it is common for people to blame themselves when a spouse cheats. They say..." If I just could have done this...", "If I just could have looked this way...". It has nothing to do with the way you look or how you are, they are the cowards who couldn't deal with their problems like an adult. Even if you had major problems, cheating is never exceptable behavior. A real man or woman would address their problems with their spouse or end things before they began something with someone else. I agree with mojo3894, this too shall pass. Keep your chin up, you'll be fine!!!
You are a beautiful person and will find the right, mature person who takes "commitment" seriously.