Good guys are the ones we really want when all is sid an done, they are the ones we want long term, the ones we take home and show mom so to speak. But the bad boys are the mr.right nows that make us feel wanted, needed,sexy,and all with no commitment. We usually go for the wild guy when we are going through a rough time ion our own life and need the excitement. There is nothing wrong with a little of both. If you fihure out were those guys are wild but into a womens emotional and sensual needs point me in the right direction ok, have a feelinging it will be the wild ones for me for a while. Have a girls just gotta have fun right?! LOL

Not sure what makes women go for the rough type. Women like to fix things, if he's wild they probably think they can tame him by the love of a good woman.

I go for the ones I think are nice and sensitive. The trouble is I am very trusting and want to see the good in people so sometimes I ignore those little red flags which should warn me off. My husband seemed the perfect gent when I met him. 19 years old and still a virgin, wrote lots of love poems to me, bought me anything he could with his limited means but very quickly he became abusive both verbally and occasionally physically, had very little time for me, started spending all our money, refusing to go anywhere with me except to visit his family, and has had two affairs resulting in him actually leaving me on both occasions. Boy did I not see that coming!!

Good guys finish first with me...And yes there is a difference between a good guy and a push over..being good doesn't mean being weak..even the so called bad boys can be push overs....

I don't think anyone wants a pushover-- at least not a good woman! I want a nice guy but I have to respect him. I don't want someone that makes me feel like I'm the "man" in the relationship!

I was with a bad guy for 25 years and would find it SO refreshing to find a good guy. I highly doubt there are any left. Move to WI and prove me wrong. :)

I don't think good guys finish last... It's a question of perception. Their actions don't stand out as much, because they are selfless and usually that kind of work shows in the lives of those they love. The example that comes to mind is the influence a father can have on his children... That man may die poor, but he can see the fruit of his actions move into the future: healthy, moral and successful kids. In the eyes of those of us who mind that kind of attitude, that man is a hero.
Our society also has a tendency to reward notorious behavior rather than uplift valorous ones. We know what kind of underwear Spears wear but we don't know the names of those who achieve results in the labs somewhere in the world and those might save our lives one day! I guess stepping over everyone else is more exciting to some than a man who attempts to do the right thing in most situation. Good guys (and gals!) live by higher standards and are stronger people because of that and for that. It's much easier to succomb to depravation, sin in general, than follow moral tenets. But at the end of the day, at the end of life, one can look back and be satisfied with the results.
Good moral behavior and humility are often mistaken for weakness. That's probably why some of us have been discarted like an old pair of shoes. I have. It's like we can't cut it in this world. But I don't think I would have been able to withstand the storm (my divorce) if I had not been strong and my values had not been steady. I don't think my stbx would have been as successful as he was, if I had not been in the background doing all the menial, but necessary, work. Being who I am makes me less exciting than someone who sleeps around and appear ruthless, but at least my family and friends can count on me.
I personally would never settle for a bad boy, even go out with one. Such an outting would probably end up badly anyway. The package has to include intelligence and kindness... I've seen too much junk during my life to even consider it.

I like my nice guys with an edge, haha.

I want a great guy. One that makes me laugh and laughs with me. One that will respect me and appreciate my differences. One who is honest and loving and refreshing. Push overs are push overs. I don't think I need one of those. A helpful man would be awesome. He also needs to love kids.
Bad boys are okay but they don't tend to last. I am not looking for a bad boy, not at all. I am ready for a refreshing change. OMG! I think I might be ready to date again... well after my divorce. So "good guys" look out! lol

I don't think we can overgeneralize about such things. To the extent that this does occur, it is probably all that primordial gender conditioning. That women are trained to 'domesticate the beast' and that men are trained to resist domestication. Luckily many of us escape that gender conditioning but clearly the recipe still exists.

Okay it is not that good guys finish last but rather''
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we as women may not be attracted to you, so men fall into two categories

a) ones I might date and have a relationships with and
b) friends

so as a guy if you are attracted to a woman, she may not want to hurt your feelings but trust us.. within one hour she knows which category you belong in.... so come right out and ask her... dont get used... if you know the score then either move on to someone who wants you sexually, emotionally and for a relationship but dont whine about "good guys finish last" that is NOT what it is all about..... it is just that some woman dont see you in that light.....trust me on that one

Here it is in a nut shell woman like bad boys because they are dangerous and scary, kind of like a horror movie. Its all very tense but you get a thrill out of it. Nice guys are just to plain for many woman and they want more excitement. In other words if you are a nice guy you always finish last because who wants some one who issome what grounded when they can have a live wire.

Evolutionary biology. We're primates. Female primates are genetically inclined to mate with the alpha male in a group. You can recognize the alpha male because he's loud, cocky, self-centered and dominant.

The key to building attraction seems to be to fake an extroverted, lighthearted and cocky attitude upon first impression - and save your true personality for when she's already crushing on you.

I know this because I've practiced it and seen it work. I quit because it depressed me that I had to put on a show for women to find me attractive. I just don't need that blow to my self-esteem during this fragile time of recovery.

Well biology may play apart, but if that were true we'd be grabbing fertile looking strangers and fucking them in parking lots or grocery stores and then going about our business.

I think the more respect for her self and inner strength a woman has the less she needs to chose a man who "appears" to be tough enough to "protect" her from the world. She knows she needs no protection, so is able to chose a mate for his finer qualities.

Good point, Joane, but whether we get it on with strangers in parking lots is a choice we can control. I would argue that attraction is not so much a choice.

I'll hold out,for 20 years if I have to!, for a good guy. I know they're out there, but it's hard to trust "what you see is what you get" as many men put on a good face then change. My prayer is for all the good women to find good men, and vice versa.