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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I've been thinking that marriage is like a puzzle. In the begining you have this full box of pieces, you lay them out on the table with your hopes, dreams, desires and plans. These pieces have the potential of becoming a beautiful picture. However as the years go by pieces get lost in the move or bumped off the table or destroyed by careless acts. Now if the couple makes it to the end and finishes the puzzle it may not be perfect. Pieces may be missing, little holes and gaps, but it will be done and because no life is perfect it was hopefully fulfilling to put those pieces together. On the other hand if the couple, or one partner, gets tired of putting the pieces together and stops then the puzzle is never completed and no one will ever know what it could have looked like at the end. I guess most of us are at the point where this puzzle is going to be put back in the box, and hid on a shelf because it hurts to bad to remember or think what could have been. I guess I was just thinking.

deleted_user
that was a great analogy. you are so right, my puzzle has been put away. but i have a new one. and it is very very slowly being put together by me. i don't need anyone to help me with it right now, and that's ok. when it is finished, perhaps there will be someone to bring the frame, but i will not let anyone take it apart or break it.

deleted_user
Wow! What an excellent post! That's getting printed off and coming to my counseling session.... Thank you!

sassafrastea
That is a great analogy! Thank you for posting that! i've got many lost pieces but i'm trying to find them and put them in place again...maybe not all of them but at least some!! lol

deleted_user
hey, I am thinking further now: in my marriage I hold some pieces of the puzzle and my hb did too...now I will have an opportunity to make my puzzle complete just by myself - isn't it a nice thought - to become a whole person, who doesn't need any external pieces to be who he is?!

deleted_user
Yes, yes, yes...
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