Thank you!!! I was about to post something myself to knock it back down the list. Enough of the nonsense!

Its like when my X does something really uncaring... not only is he sticking a knife into an already open wound, he twists it a bit to really makes it hurt!!!

So, does that mean we are bumping Raisen also?

This past summer, a number of catalysts happened that made me realize that I just can't continue...the main one was that I became involved with another man. There was no s*x, but we did make out a few times. It didn't last long - only a couple of weeks - and was not serious, but it shook me up enough to make me realize that if I was *willing* to have an affair, then I needed to GET OUT of the marriage and get on with my life.

...or do we just bump the horny guys?

Ahh, you noticed that too did ya Zoot? I thought I was the only one.

Hadn't even seen that one zoot... your eyesight must be better than mine if you can stand to read a post that long. LOL I say we blast all the instigating cheaters off the front page.

He just sounds to close to my own X...

I suppose it is different if you do the soul-searching first. In my Xs case he did not, he did the action first and exposed me to STDs. If I had caught what the OW gave him (or worse), he could have been writing a death sentence for both of our daughter's parents. Making her an orphan.

i noticed it too, but, she put some background about her husband in there, and also, she wasn't asking questions on how to screw him in the divorce process. should i move in with my new lover, he's been with her two years now, both married, and trying to find if he moves in with her, how will that affect the divorce outcome, the guy was scum. at least the other one, knew it was wrong, and even said, tempted to have an affair, knew the marriage was over.