Help, please. I am recently divorced after 29 years of marriage. I began dating about 6 months after I kicked the cheater out. I met guys online and then dated some. I enjoyed dating very much - never had a bad experience with it. I met a wonderful man one year ago Monday. After we met and began dating seriously I stopped dating anyone else. Our relationship became pretty intense pretty fast. We are extremely compatible, and were like "fire" with one another. Due to circumstances, he lost his apartment. Actually it was because he was working ten hour days and then spending most of the rest of the time at my house, leaving his dog at home in his apartment barking his head off. I suggested he get a neighbor boy to let his dog out periodically for $20 a week, but nevertheless he was evicted. Because he had a dog they moved in with me, I thought temporarily. He had a lot of difficulty finding an apartment that he could afford with a dog. Time passes - his dog does too!! So, now I'm thinking that he will be able to find his own place with little worry. (We are still happy, giddy, crazy about each other). You won't believe, but doesn't he lose his job! Laid off from the "Big Yellow Box" here in Rochester. Now he has no money - yup, you guessed it - he can't move out. It's been six months and he still isn't working. I don't feel as though I'm supporting him but I do feel resentful that I was making more money than he when even we first met and I paid for LOTS of what we did together and now I am paying for everything. I wouldn't care if it weren't so difficult, but my mortgage is high and the car payment, etc. I think that I'm most upset about the fact that I wonder if he is "good enough" for me - you know, the eviction, the firing, etc. I don't want to be a snob, but I do worry about whether or not I would come to look down on him. I am so mixed up because he adores me, he is so kind, so funny, so caring, an unbelievable lover. I don't want to sound like a kid (at my age) but I am also concerned about what the rest of the family thinks of him "living off me" for the past six months. Help - am I being fair to this guy? I don't want to hold on to him for the wrong reasons and then kick him to the curb when I "come to". Help
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