Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
i saw a young girl, age 14, becoming a new member in our community late the other night. i immediately saw a hug and a friend request from a 45 year old man. i messaged the girl welcoming her to ds and cautioning her about a false sence of security on a help website.
i also hugged the gentlemen explaining my concern that he immediately requested her to be a friend and that as a parent i would not be happy if this was my daughter. telling one of his friends to reach out would be more appropriate. he hugged me and thanked me.
then he journaled and acted appalled that i would question this. i then read a hug encouraging him from a man with not the 2 14year olds he had, but many many young people on his. he even had a horrible past with sexual abuse and was a scout leader.
yes, i wrote doug, but i wondered if there was something we could do as a commuinity to have a certain peer pressure with each other to behave appropriately with these young people. anyone else want to be on the "perv police" with me?
i also hugged the gentlemen explaining my concern that he immediately requested her to be a friend and that as a parent i would not be happy if this was my daughter. telling one of his friends to reach out would be more appropriate. he hugged me and thanked me.
then he journaled and acted appalled that i would question this. i then read a hug encouraging him from a man with not the 2 14year olds he had, but many many young people on his. he even had a horrible past with sexual abuse and was a scout leader.
yes, i wrote doug, but i wondered if there was something we could do as a commuinity to have a certain peer pressure with each other to behave appropriately with these young people. anyone else want to be on the "perv police" with me?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I messaged TUP right away and told him we had similar concerns with teens in an adult community in the Depression Community and it was nuts.
We are both in agreement about Free Speech, that said.. to paraphrase Tub.. uneasy about leaving the door unlock to arsenal cabinet.
I messaged Doug with my concerns a few months ago about teens and the context of some of the conversations and new communities were formed for them. ie) Teen Depression..etc.
I think we have to be totally concerned about the teens... and yes, check who their friends are. They arrive here in a vulnerable state, and we have to step up to protect them from abuse.
i am not on as much as others, but i will back you guys up with what ever you decide to do...just send me a message & let me know...
my views on free speech are well known and documented here. And i do think parental responsibility falls into play here also.
That said, minors and adults just dont need to interact re: anything remotely connected to relationship/relationship hell.
Just say no.
Yes, there are some Pervy McPervesteins on here, but there are also some youngn's passing through who don't need to be here.
Maybe we need a breakups under 18 and a breakups/divorce 18 and up? I'm not trying to diminish the pain that anyone goes through and I'm not saying their pain isn't valid. But maybe I am advocating a kiddie table or something along those lines; no one's speech would be impeded. However, it would take a bit more vigilance on our parts to help police the younger room.
ladies, remember being that age?? how much did you do that you didn't realize was potentially dangerous until several years later. at the time, i thought it was the adults that were out of line, telling me how to behave. just don't forget what it was like when talking to these kids.
we could just shoot the creeps too....