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Prayer help

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I am hoping that someone can help me. I have never been a religious person. Once the bomb was dropped on me I didn't know what to do or where to turn so I started praying. I don't even know if I was doing it right.

I asked the lord for his help, strength and guidance. I feel like the lord did answer me by putting a good job with wonderful hours in my path - a job that allows me to be here for my kids when they get home from school, etc...

Last night I went to bed and I prayed. I told the lord that I was putting my marriage in his hands because I am so confused and I know longer know what to do. At times I want to fight - even though I don't know what to do to fight for it, and other times I just want to give the STBX what he wants and give him the divorce. Anyway, I asked God to give me some type of sign - something to let me know what to do. I went to sleep and had HORRIBLE dreamns about me and STBX.

Would this be the sign that I was asking for? Does God send signs in you dreams? I don't know if this was a sign from God or if this was just the normal bad dreams that one could have after having a really hard day. Yesterday, I cried almost all day - I was more upset than usual. When the STBX called to speak with the boys I asked him when his plane was to arrive since I am picking him up and he was very rude and said "I will speak with you later about this!"
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I don't know how God works. But I do know that prayer is a wonderful tool. It's not only our way of communicating with God and telling him what we want/need. It's also his way of talking to us. During your prayer time, make sure that you take some time to just be quiet and listen. God will direct you. He loves you very much and will not leave you.

I'm sorry that your ex was rude to you. I don't know how they are able to through away years of love either. Maybe they fell out of love long ago, and we just never noticed it. Who knows?
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I am a true believer in the power of prayer. I have seen it work wonders and I know He's there for all of us. I can't tell you it that's a sign or not, but you have to go with what you think it means. He will lead you into the right path, just relax and let Him help you. Only time will tell what the future holds. Don't be too hard on yourself about things. remember that you can only do what you can do and if it is beyond your capability to fix then there really isn't you can do and worrying yourself to death will only make your health suffer. Take care of yourself physically and spiritually and it will all work out.
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If you are seeking help from the Lord He is not going to give you a bad dream. God does not give evil when you need encouragement, the enemy does that. God wants marriages to work, he designed marriage. You have marital rights concerning your covenant. It takes three to make a covenant in marriage; the husband, the wife and God. Even if your husband wants a divorce and breeches the covanent, when two are still standing (you and God)in the covenant, God will honor your desire to keep the marriage intact. It's Gods own law, it takes two to break a covenant! If you stand firm in your faith God promises to restore your marriage. If you don't want a divorce don't sign the papers! Ask the Lord for courage, strenght and increase of faith. It is Gods will for marriages to work!
deleted_user
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You need to go with what you think the dream meant. I don't consider bad dreams evil, sometimes they are warnings. I believe that God wants our marriages to work and considers them sacred. I also believe God loves US more than he loves or cares about the marriage covenant. I am divorced and Christian. I struggled for a long time with this decision. I am at peace with the one I made. Keep praying, He will answer.
Tweety1480
Tweety1480
It could be the Lord was showing you the conflict between the two of you, what has been, maybe what could be or not be. Seems if the Lord was showing you to have hope of things working out the dreams would have been different. My guess is you are going to face many painful times ahead and you won't be able to change it. I think you're on the right path, seeking God for his wisdom, truth, and guidance. I know I could have never made it through my divorce without the help of God.
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There is no correct way to pray. If you're talking, God's listening. If you're not talking, he hears the meditations of your heart. Talk to him on your knees or talk to him eyes open, like you're talking to a friend across the room. As lost as I feel right now, I know God loves me, loves you, loves all of us. Pray for patience, strength, wisdom, courage, and that his will be done in your life. Trust in Him.
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Thank you all so much for your replies. I don't know what I would do without DS or without any of you here.
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Wow what an awesome question! I too have asked myself that before. How do I KNOW that it's what God is telling me and not just me thinking for myself? So I did alot of praying about it. I looked back on things and I know now that where I am today, is where He is leading me. I left my marriage at His feet, I left STBX at His feet to work on him. But in my case, one thing that my pastors have been good at telling me is that God hates divorce not the people. He hates divorce because of what it DOES to us. I mean look at the pain here! Look at how much this hurts us. God never wanted that. But He also said that if the unbeliever walks, then let him walk. And that adultry is one of the two "okays" for divorce since it broke that covenant.
I'm so very sorry you are hurting. Pray to God and ask Him to help heal your heart and to give you guidance and strength. Lord knows we need that! lol.
I'll be praying for you too.
deleted_user
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god doesn't give you bad dreams,I would not think that it was a sign .It was a dream due to your hard day. i just talk to the lord about everything that I'm feeling,I don't think that god cares how we pray just as long as we talk to him and I feel alot better and it has helped me so much.Just continue to pray and he will answer you ,he will not leave or forstake you.for reason some people just need to be rude so they can feel better about what they are doing,that has been my past experince.
take care care of your self and it will work out. keep praying god will listen
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