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Post divorce choices-parenting vs. self

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During the divorce, I told him I wanted primary custody as I had been the primary caregiver for 13 years, and he pretty much didn\'t have a clue how to raise kids. He never paid bills, made doctor\'s appointments, cooked, shopped, or helped kids with homework. He insisted he wanted primary custody, but we settled for joint physical custody.
Now he is remarried, and I despise the fact that I not only have to share my kids with a man I now hate, but with his wife who at one point while we were still married and they were friends, would jokingly say \"I\'m just using your husband to get to your baby.\"
So now he can give them a family life, as his wife takes care of everything for him. I would like to move on with my life. I always wanted to go back to school, but don\'t have enough time or money for it right now. In order to stay in the same school district as he insisted I do, I needed to buy a house I can\'t afford.
Which brings me to this question- should I give up on joint custody, at least for a few years, sell the house and move on with my life by going back to school? Then I would be working on myself instead of sitting here feeling sorry for myself. What would make me a better parent? Sacrifice myself by pretending to provide a home for the kids? Or become myself a better person, but make my kids second in priority?
Now he is remarried, and I despise the fact that I not only have to share my kids with a man I now hate, but with his wife who at one point while we were still married and they were friends, would jokingly say \"I\'m just using your husband to get to your baby.\"
So now he can give them a family life, as his wife takes care of everything for him. I would like to move on with my life. I always wanted to go back to school, but don\'t have enough time or money for it right now. In order to stay in the same school district as he insisted I do, I needed to buy a house I can\'t afford.
Which brings me to this question- should I give up on joint custody, at least for a few years, sell the house and move on with my life by going back to school? Then I would be working on myself instead of sitting here feeling sorry for myself. What would make me a better parent? Sacrifice myself by pretending to provide a home for the kids? Or become myself a better person, but make my kids second in priority?
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Tina
I agree with seeking legal advise, if you do this, to amend the divorce judgement.
Best of luck in whatever you choose.
Uther