
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Ok so let\'s have this be a thread we can all reflect back to or cut-n-paste into our own desktops helpful tidbits/quotes that may apply to our individual situations. It could truly help others visiting this thread too.
I welcome all contributions! Lord knows I need this stuff with xmas fast approaching....
I\'ll start:
\"Never let your sense of morals prevent you from doing what\'s right. \" ~Isaac Asimov
I welcome all contributions! Lord knows I need this stuff with xmas fast approaching....
I\'ll start:
\"Never let your sense of morals prevent you from doing what\'s right. \" ~Isaac Asimov
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Mark Twain
You cannot be loving if you are not courageous.
You cannot be trusting if you are not courageous.
You cannot enter into reality if you are not courageous.
Hence courage comes first... and everything else follows.
Osho, 1931-1990
1)
Remember These Words
Don\'t let go of hope.
Hope gives you the strength to keep
going when you feel like giving up.
Don\'t ever quit believing in yourself.
As long as you believe you can,
you will have a reason for trying.
Don\'t let anyone hold your
happiness in their hands;
hold it in yours, so it will always
be within your reach.
Don\'t measure success or failure by
material wealth, but by how you feel;
our feelings determine the richness
of our lives.
Don\'t let bad moments overcome you;
be patient, and they will pass.
Don\'t hesitate to reach out for help;
we all need it from time to time.
Don\'t run away from love but towards
love, because it is our deepest joy.
Don\'t wait for what you want to come to
you; go after it with all that you are,
knowing that life will meet you halfway.
Don\'t feel like you\'ve lost when plans
and dreams fall short of your hopes.
Anytime you learn something new about
yourself or about life, you have progressed.
Don\'t do anything that takes away from
your self-respect; feeling good about
yourself is essential to feeling good
about life.
Don\'t ever forget how to laugh or be
too proud to cry.
It is by doing both that we live
life to its fullest.
2)
Nudge the Balance
A 91-year-old woman died after living a very long dignified life. When she met God, she asked Him something that had really bothered her for a very long time. \"If Man was created in God\'s image, and if all men are created equal, why do people treat each other so badly?\"
God replied that each person who enters our life has a unique lesson to teach us. It is only through these lessons that we learn about life, people and our relationships with God. This confused the woman, so God began to explain:
\"When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always what they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know what is in their hearts. Remove your own masks to let people know who you really are.
When someone steals from you it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have. You never know when you might lose it. Never take your friends or family for granted, because today and sometimes only this very moment is the only guarantee you may have.
When someone inflicts injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is a very fragile one. Protect and take care of your body as best as you can, it\'s the one thing that you are sure to have forever.
When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, do not judge them by how they look or act, instead base it on the contents of what is in their hearts.
When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that the person will love you back. But don\'t turn your back on love, because when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings you will make up for all of your past hurts. Times a thousand fold.
When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt us is often the most difficult and painful of life\'s experiences, but it is also the most courageous thing a person can do.
When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is Man\'s greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptations. By doing so, you will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted.
When someone cheats you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about your success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities.
When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control.\"
Upon hearing the Lord\'s wisdom, the old woman became concerned that there are no lessons to be learned from man\'s good deeds. God replied that Man\'s capacity to love is the greatest gift He has. At the root of kindness and love, and each act of love also teaches us a lesson. The woman\'s curiosity deepened. God, once again began to explain:
\"When someone loves us, it teaches us love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness, acceptance, and all of these can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused.
When you enter someone\'s life, whether by plan, chance or coincidence, consider what your lesson will be. Will you teach love or a harsh lesson of reality? When you die, will your life have resulted in more loving or more hurting? More comfort or more pain? More joy or more sadness? Each one of us has the power over the balance of the love in the world. Use it wisely!\"
Don\'t miss an opportunity to nudge the world\'s scale in the right direction!
Pass this lesson of love on to those you love and those you have hurt, and those that have hurt you, hopefully with each person that receives this, there will be far less evil and a great deal more love!
3)
May You Always Feel Loved
May you find serenity and tranquility in a world you may not always understand.
May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you the strength to walk through life facing each new situation with optimism and courage.
Always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there, even when you feel most alone.
May you discover enough goodness in others to believe in a world of peace
May a kind word, a reassuring touch, a warm smile be yours every day of your life, and may you give these gifts as well as receive them.
Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending.
Teach love to those who know hate, and let that love embrace you as you go into the world.
May the teaching of those you admire become part of you, so that you may call upon them.
Remember, those whose lives you have touched and who have touched yours are always a part of you, even if the encounters were less than you would have wished.
May you not become too concerned with material matters, but instead place immeasurable value on the goodness in your heart.
Find time in each day to see the beauty and love in the world around you.
Realize that each person has limitless abilities, but each of us is different in our own way.
What you may feel you lack in one regard may be more than compensated for in another.
What you feel you lack in the present may become one of your strengths in the future.
May you see your future as one filled with promise and possibility.
Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience.
May you find enough inner strength to determine your own worth by yourself, and not be dependent on an other\'s judgments of your accomplishments.
May you always feel loved.
4)
Life\'s Hot Spots
Living through the pressures of life can be compared to walking through fire. The Old Testament prophet Isaiah believed that if you have faith in God, you can walk through fire and not be burned. He didn\'t promise that you won\'t feel the heat, just that you won\'t be burned.
::::::::: How to walk through life\'s Hot Spots :::::::::
Keep on walking. A surefire way to get burned is to stop walking. When you are afraid, or under extreme stress, or hurting -- keep going. You will get through if you keep dealing with the everyday tasks at hand to the best of your ability.
!!! PERSEVERE !!!
Remember that this difficult time will pass. It may feel that you are in a repeating time warp, but realize that pain is time-limited. All problems have a beginning and an end.
!!! BE PATIENT !!!
Make rough times work for you. Not everything is good, but the Bible reminds us that everything can be used for good if you submit your will to God. Look for ways to learn, grow, or cope in your pain or stress.
!!! HAVE COURAGE !!!
Take \"what is\" and make the most of it. Make lemonade from your lemons. You are not called upon to create perfection from every situation, only to make the most of it. Don\'t waste your time on ceaseless complaining, but look for meaning and joy in all situations.
!!! BE CONTENT !!!
Clean up your own trash. Stand on your own feet and don\'t try to blame others for your problems. You are not a victim. Choose to live the rest of your life with a controlled response to what is happening.
!!! TAKE RESPONSIBILITY !!!
Be true to you. You will have more strength for dealing with ordeals in life if you have the courage to be true to your own values. Hypocrisy destroys internal energy.
!!! MODEL INTEGRITY !!!
Be gladder than madder. Expressions of gratitude calm the soul and clear the mind.
!!! SHOW GRATITUDE !!!
Have as much fun as you can. Anticipation of fun raises the level of your energy. Learn to laugh through your trials.
!!! DISPLAY HUMOR !!!
Determine what is within your control You cannot control what happens to you, but you can choose the frame you put around your experiences. You can choose how you will deal with all situations.
!!! EXHIBIT INTERNAL CONTROL !!!
Be enthusiastic. Enthusiasm literally means, \"God in us.\" If He is in you, let your life so shine. Learn to love life.
!!! SHOW YOUR PASSION !!!
Education is not the filling of a bucket -- but the lighting of a fire in your life. Live and Learn and Pass it On.
(book-Walk Two Moons)
~Sal
ODAT
Anon.
\"This too shall pass\"
Brody \"Jaws\" 1975
Les Brown.
Albert Einstein