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how is it that you can find porn sites on his computer,in the cookies and history,usually when Ive been away either for the day or a trip back home,and when I ask him his answer is always I dont know how it got there,they dont pop up on mine.Ive caught him in lies and he says that if I trusted him he wouldnt lie.He can be nice,help me to be stong so I can feel like a person again
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There is also a forum for sex/pornography that I belong to!
I cannot beleive that you people are telling her what you are telling her! Porn is NOT NORMAL...It is a REAL ISSUE...ONE THAT SCREWES UP MARRIAGES!
My god...go to hte forum I was tellign her abotu ansd read what other women are saying about all this...it is ruining more marriages in todays society than you people know!
it has nothign to do with not giving them enough sex...nor not cooking for them...it makes a woman feel liek she is NOT ENOUGH!
Come on people...a little bit more empathy here...please???????
Sorry, but I am gogin through couseling and support for my husband over this, so if it sounds like I got on a soap box...sorry, but I DID!
What would he do if the tables were turned? Sometimes men feel it's okay, but if they found their women looking at naked men, talking in chat rooms, emailing old flames, or even making new male relationships online that she doesn't talk about - I don't see how they'd NOT question it.
And no matter who's doing it - it SHOULD be questioned.
In my marriage, my stbx not only cheated in the town here with a co-worker, but he got online and met streams of women. He called them, emailed them, I found chat room conversations so suggestive and to the point it was sickening...his live affair gave way to his going further on the internet and I'm sure vice versa.
You can be anything you want to be on the internet and no one would know the difference. If a marriage is in trouble, why would you go to a device such as the internet to get 'help' for your marriage? Who ARE you talking to anyway?? They could tell you anything you wanted to hear and if you're lonely in your marriage, that influence helps you to drift further away from your spouse. How is that fair to your spouse? An outside influence helped you to look badly at your marriage. Not fair at all. You could be talking to inmates, children..God knows who and you take it to heart that this 'person' cares for you and the advice they give should be taken. Very sad...
If he feels he's missing something from you, he needs to tell you instead of looking on the internet for it. He has that obligation as your husband. That's what marriage is about. Talking, not sneaking. I feel if he has to look at porn, then it could be done right in front of you and not be hidden. If he feels it's okay, why hide it?
And if you have a history on it with dates and times, then YES he's looking at it..it just doesn't POP up in your history unless it's gone to and looked at. And honest sites - the ones I go to - don't have porn popping up unless you've been to a site associated with it. I go to college and have a full time job and I don't have porn popping up and I'm almost on the internet 12 hours a day sometimes.
Point is, with looking at this stuff, sometimes it leads to 'other' stuff. The internet has ways of making you brave. When self esteem and coinfidence is low, being told you're really great or misunderstood at home..or not given enough attention..that's a great way to look for other outlets like live affairs.
Hope it all works out for you and you find the strength you need.
(ok I'm done ranting now...) That's just stupid. It's not normal!!!