what would be the distance from house to house? Is there travel time involved?

for the time being No , there would be a short distance between us. right now we're living in the same house but we may sell and i'll rent a place, he'll go to his moms and both places will be in town to keep kidds in same school.

I'm not sure if my experience is common but we spent hours and hours haggling over his visitation schedule and when it was finally settled he completely ignored it to the point that I took him back to mediation and had his time officially reduced. When I think of all the stressing I did for nothing..... I wonder id anyone else has found that it ends up being much looser than you thought it would be according to countless variables?

My girls' dad is an electrical engineer (something close to an anal control freak - in the very best way) and he demanded that the custody decree be followed to the letter - to the minute - until he went on his month long hunting trip in November, or he went to Hawaii or Mexico for a week, or - you get the picture. I followed it unless he demanded otherwise. I figured the more time I had with my kids the better. I have 11 years of sharing custody under my belt now and my kids are closer now. He and the kids - not so much. I want them to have a relationship with him, though, so I encourage time with their dad. Once my girls got older my ex and I knew they essentially could decide for themselves where they wanted to be - and I knew that would happen when I let him go on all of his trips. They choose to be with me more now, but they made the choice themselves and my counselor says they are very well adjusted...