Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
ugh. long story. made short. my partner of 4 years, a woman that i love more than i ever thought possible, left me earlier this year due to me being bi-polar. yep. it happens. we broke each other on relationships, and now she is doing polyamory, or having multiple relationships. she's not just screwing them, but they have full-blown relationships.
now, she still loves me to death, and the feelings are mutual. so when she invited me to be one of her partners i said yes. wrong choice. being monogamous with someone for four years and then sharing them with others is like being fired, and getting rehired at half pay. it sucks. it sucks so very much.
and i have no idea what to do. i lvoe her greatly, but i cannot be guy number 3 or 4. i cannot. but i've spent the last year trying to get over this, and to walk away, and she is always on my mind. she... fuck.
how do you let them go? really?
now, she still loves me to death, and the feelings are mutual. so when she invited me to be one of her partners i said yes. wrong choice. being monogamous with someone for four years and then sharing them with others is like being fired, and getting rehired at half pay. it sucks. it sucks so very much.
and i have no idea what to do. i lvoe her greatly, but i cannot be guy number 3 or 4. i cannot. but i've spent the last year trying to get over this, and to walk away, and she is always on my mind. she... fuck.
how do you let them go? really?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Let them go?
Hmm...
someone just posted this today:
LET THEM GO....
"There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean, Hang Up the Phone!.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left.
The Bible says "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." (1 John 2:19)
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
LET THEM GO
It doesn't mean that they are a bad person; it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when peoples' part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something - I've got the gift of good-bye. Its the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop beggin people to stay.
LET THEM GO....
Put yourself out there. There is some gal out there who needs you, is waiting to find you, and will bring you true love, comfort, and happiness.
But how to let them go? Tough when you care so much, BUT, you have it if you really want to. The only way is positive thinking that what they do, is not someone you want to be with. What they believe in, you dont. What they want, you dont. So it is about having strength and courage to believe in yourself and walk away.
Love yourself to death..and get away from this woman.
You let them go by telling yourself that you deserve better..WAY better.