You are not out of your mind! It's normal to miss them. Sometimes I miss my stbx. I don't know why. He's living with the OW and has moved on with His life but some days I do miss what we had. HUGS to you!!

I wouldn't say something is wrong with you. You're human just like the rest of us.

We cling onto those things which are familiar, regardless of how good or bad they may be for us.

same thing happened to me..

actually enjoyed xmas but it hit me the day after - dont know - dont understand

maybe somewhere in our minds we thought theyd come crawling back then when xmas came and went - we knew that wasnt true

dont know - just sayin

It sucks, doesn't it!

I have been seperated from the old ball and chain for two christmas's now and I can honestly tell you on both December the 25ths the last thing I missed was her. So what does that mean to you, you will get there and I was married for 22 years.

Nothing is wrong with you. Nothing at all.

I've had the same problem. Stbx has been on my mind since my break started on Dec. 20 and I don't go back to work until Jan. 5

No wonder I'm starting New Years drinking early--anything to get that fucktard out of my head!

Hugs to you. The holidays have been tough on all of us.

I think the New Year is harder on me than Xmas. The New Year celebration is more of a couple thing that is why it hits home for me. NO matter what you are entitled to your feelings.

There's so much distraction leading up to Christmas - it gets so quiet afterwards. You'll be okay though!

This was the first christmas for me, but I had my daughter so it was good and I did not think about the ex. Christmas day I did have to give my daughter up from 12 pm through 6 pm on Dec. 26. That was the tough day because the ex was in my house, with her new man, his kids, my daughter doing the chistmas thing when i was all alone. I still did not think about the ex, just her situation is always better than mine. Or so it may seem. Have unknown to them knowledge obout the new man and their relationship all I can do is laugh inside. Besides, what else can one do that is positive anyway. I will not give her any more hurtful emotion because she has already squezed out every drop and there is nothing left. Next year will be better and I will have a whole year to make it that way. I will get my daught on christmas day unil the next and will again make the most of it.

Feel exactly the same!

Missed him like crazy on Xmas day, thought about him non stop - boxing day was worse! He's with OW and his older kids having fun fun fun - and wonder why the F*** I can't get the SOB out of my head and thoughts!!!