Hi, I wanted to know if there is anyone who has already divorced and at the time of your divorce had a young child? My daughter is 2 1/2 and I am going through a divorce. My stbx is still involved in her life right now and claims he always will be, but she will be the product of divorce nonetheless. My stbx seems to always sugar coat everything and reassure me that she will be fine because she is so young and this will just become her "normal". I think he says this half the time to justify him leaving and all of his actions that basically destroyed our marriage and family - but that is another story. It is what it is now as unfair and devestating as it seems. I have to create a new life for her rather than the one I thought she would be having. I can tell that she is confused about certain things and I try to reassure her constantly and just love her as much as possible. This coming weekend my daughter and I will be moving in with my parents so I can try to get back on my feet after being blindsided by all of this pain and devestation. The past weekend we painted her room and I let her paint with us so she can be part of the process and I am trying to make her understand that will be her home for a little while. I am not sure how much she really gets. I am just trying to make the transition fun and easy on her, when it is so horrible and difficult for me. It is hard to switch gears all the time but for her I can always do that. I wonder what she will be like because of all of this and the divorce and just want to do my very best by her. Can anyone tell me how their then 2 or 3 year old has grown up and is doing now (even if they are only now a couple of years older)? I find myself constantly thinking and worrying about this because I never ever wanted this for her (just like everyone else here). Anyway, any info would be helpful because as I write this I am crying and so sad for her and what I was not able to make happen for her - a home with a mommy and daddy. Thanks.
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