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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Hello,
I am new to this site and am desperate for some help.
I have been with my husband for 12 years and married for 4.
He is a nice guy, treats me well and does not deserve to be hurt by me.
The thing is I don't think i want to be with him any more.
I don't think I can leave him though. There are many reasons for this.....
He has no family of friends
He has mental illness and I am not sure he would come through a devorce.
He is about to have an opperation which will see him layed up for weeks and has no one else to look after him.
I do love him but it feels more like you would love your friend or relative.
I have spent to long thinking this through now that I am confused. I don't know if I have just convinced myself that I don't love him or I really dont love him. I know I don't want to hurt him.
God I think I am going mad. I can not concentraite on anything.
I am at uni and have assesments next week but just cant face going in. I am going to fail.
How do I decide what to do? How do I stop this sick feeling in my tummy for a while, I am tired of it.
Please help.
I am new to this site and am desperate for some help.
I have been with my husband for 12 years and married for 4.
He is a nice guy, treats me well and does not deserve to be hurt by me.
The thing is I don't think i want to be with him any more.
I don't think I can leave him though. There are many reasons for this.....
He has no family of friends
He has mental illness and I am not sure he would come through a devorce.
He is about to have an opperation which will see him layed up for weeks and has no one else to look after him.
I do love him but it feels more like you would love your friend or relative.
I have spent to long thinking this through now that I am confused. I don't know if I have just convinced myself that I don't love him or I really dont love him. I know I don't want to hurt him.
God I think I am going mad. I can not concentraite on anything.
I am at uni and have assesments next week but just cant face going in. I am going to fail.
How do I decide what to do? How do I stop this sick feeling in my tummy for a while, I am tired of it.
Please help.
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I wish you the best.
I do intend to stay with him untill he has recovered from his opp regardless of anything else.
Should I tell him how I am feeling? I want to but I am scared that it will make him flip out.
Uncertainity about your future, about the outcome of his surgery and how the whole couple dynamics will be.
Yes, go for counselling please. You need assistance to be able to cope and to get thru this. Whatever happens in the future will happen.
You must take care of what is happening now. Figure out what you need to do.
Glad that you are not walking out of the relationship, that shows your strength and your sense of loyality and caring...and yes love that you possess.
I only hope he is strong enough to cope with that as he is quite a private person.
I will not leave him before his surgery. We have been together to long to just walk out and say thats that but I think i know in my heart of hearts that it is over.
In your experiance, does any one actually manage to remaine friends after a devorce?