I am 25 years old, have been married almost 7 years to my high school sweetheart, and have a 6 year old son. My husband and I have always had a rocky relationship with alot of bickering and arguing (especially over money and sex), but we always work it out and I thought we were truly in love. My husband is a hard working man who has worked loooong hours so that I could stay home with our son and go to college to get my teaching degree. I have tried my best to be a good wife, and even though I was gone for 10-12 hours a day with school, I always made sure he had dinner on the table, clean clothes, a clean house, and our son was taken care of. I admit that I do tend to b**tch alot about things, but I know he has no doubt how much I love him and want to be with him. After a HUGE argument about a month and half ago, I decided that I really needed to try to work on the problems that I bring into our marriage. Things were going GREAT! He seemed genuinely happy with the way our life was going. Then, two weeks ago, out of the blue, he tells me that he just isn't happy anymore and he doesn't know why. And he left. He is staying with some friends and, because of our son, we speak to each other almost every day. He also comes over to spend time with our son, which means that I also see him. He says that he still loves me and always will, but that he can't see spending the rest of his life with me. He feels caged and he can't stand it anymore. He doesn't want to file for divorce anytime soon because he says he doesn't know how he will feel in the future, but that he doesn't want to come home now either. I feel as if the ground has been jerked out from underneath me. I love this man with all of my heart and I can't believe that it is over. Right now, I need to find a job (which is NOT easy where I live) and try to get an apartment that I can afford, but nothing seems to be going right. I have good days and I have bad days. Some days I think I will be all right and other days I can hardly breathe. I just want him to come home and keep praying that he will, but what if he doesn't? My son is doing pretty well with the whole thing, especially since he can call him anytime, but he still prays every night for his daddy to come home. I just don't know what to do. Its like my husband has a light switch that he just turned off one day, and BOOM! He has no desire to be within touching distance of me and seems to show very little concern for me, even though he always asks how I'm holding up and if I need anything. I feel so confused most of the time. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice for how to cope with the first few weeks of separation, especially when you still have contact with your spouse (and do it without fighting)?
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