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STBX has swung to the other end of the pendulum again -- the "poor me, how can you DO this" end of the spectrum. I was talking to a friend about it at coffee Sunday a.m., and typically, I allow myself to get irritated by his infantile behavior -- efforts at begging for attention and trying to usurp control. I thought, what if, instead of letting him yank my chain and getting irritated, I LAUGH, OUT LOUD??? It would 1) be healing (for ME) 2) be totally unexpected for him, and 3) throw EVERYTHING off balance. And I could walk away. We both laughed our asses off. I'm gonna try it.
-- LATER --
Failed miserably.
Well, my STBX followed me around this afternoon like a lost puppy after I got home, constantly getting in my face, having "the conversation" re. the marriage, etc. etc. etc. He's like a psycho. One minute, "We're done" (i.e. he gets it) and the next "We're better together than we are apart." (i.e. he doesn't get it.) THIS from the man who, when confronted with issues in our marriage over the entire course of it, always responded, "Well, we've always HAD a shitty marriage" (ergo, nothing to work on, why bother, never gonna change it).
I totally lost my perspective and forgot to LAUGH in his face. Shit. I have to work on that. It seemed like such a great idea when I was out this a.m. I lost my composure when he kept getting in my face again this afternoon. He's gonna be around the house, what with this latest job loss. And he's been telling me, "Well, it's gonna take me at least 6 months to find a job" and "I'm not even gonna START looking for 3 months." Not like he has a severance package that he can afford to sit on his arse and eat bon bons. How did I wind UP with this loser?? Emotionally and verbally abusive but thinks he's SUUUUUUUCH a NICE GUY. Yeah. I want some o' what HE'S smokin'.
Meanwhile, I stepped things up with the attorney -- had initally told her I didn't want to file until after the holidays, so as not to upset the kids -- they didn't know at the time. What with the stbx's idiotic behavior, they know with absolute certainty now what is going on. Asshole. So, I emailed her this a.m. and told her to get it together asap, and just to let me know when it's ready...
Becky
-- LATER --
Failed miserably.
Well, my STBX followed me around this afternoon like a lost puppy after I got home, constantly getting in my face, having "the conversation" re. the marriage, etc. etc. etc. He's like a psycho. One minute, "We're done" (i.e. he gets it) and the next "We're better together than we are apart." (i.e. he doesn't get it.) THIS from the man who, when confronted with issues in our marriage over the entire course of it, always responded, "Well, we've always HAD a shitty marriage" (ergo, nothing to work on, why bother, never gonna change it).
I totally lost my perspective and forgot to LAUGH in his face. Shit. I have to work on that. It seemed like such a great idea when I was out this a.m. I lost my composure when he kept getting in my face again this afternoon. He's gonna be around the house, what with this latest job loss. And he's been telling me, "Well, it's gonna take me at least 6 months to find a job" and "I'm not even gonna START looking for 3 months." Not like he has a severance package that he can afford to sit on his arse and eat bon bons. How did I wind UP with this loser?? Emotionally and verbally abusive but thinks he's SUUUUUUUCH a NICE GUY. Yeah. I want some o' what HE'S smokin'.
Meanwhile, I stepped things up with the attorney -- had initally told her I didn't want to file until after the holidays, so as not to upset the kids -- they didn't know at the time. What with the stbx's idiotic behavior, they know with absolute certainty now what is going on. Asshole. So, I emailed her this a.m. and told her to get it together asap, and just to let me know when it's ready...
Becky
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Somehow I think his attitude will magically revert against the marriage once he finds a job.