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Pay off!!

deleted_user
deleted_user
I just got home from work and my stbx was here in the house. I knew he would be here...but he left some money for me and the Christmas presents.....So is this a payoff???
There was $1000 on the table in cash. Gee it's from our savings....an account that I can't acess. I am confused!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Boy, your guess is as good as mine...Maybe for an Atty?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't you have a protective order or restraining order in place? Excuse my 'bah humbug' attitude but the man has no business in your home if that is the case.

Don't be manipulated by fear OR funds....... there is more at stake than Christmas presents....... it's Christmas futures.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm having the same issue my stbx who hasn't talked to our son since July and showed up with presents and child suppoert he called me today and said he got me a new dishwasher and microwave and bought my son an ex box and wants to pay child suppoert I am hoping he doesn't think this will fix everything because I do not want him back
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
Call your lawyer...tell him that HE was in the house and you do not want him to enter the home.

Get a restraining order... so he can not enter the home again.

Take the money, don't acknowledge it. You choose whether to tell the lawyer about the money or not.

Guilt money. Use it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with rose..it's cash, can't be traced to you!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Check with your attorney before spending the money. Make SURE that you won't have to pay it back to him in the settlement.

STBX deducted from mine :-/ I was a bit miffed.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That account should be frozen so he cannot take it. However if he leaves you cash take it. He cannot trace that and it is his own mistake. I agree with 31yrs. he should not be in your house if you don't want him there.
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