Passive aggressive behavior
I have been with my husband for 10+ years and have never been able to put my finger on what has been our communication issues until recently. Our relationship is based on passive aggressive behaviors. Him being the passive aggressor and me playing the rescuer and victim. (yes I am in counseling for myself to deal with my downfalls). What I would like to know is has anyone out there stayed in their marriage like this and been able to deal with by both parties - with help from counseling ect- and move beyond a passive aggressive cycle? All I see out there is that the best way to deal with this is by leaving the relationship. It is gut wrenching to me to think that the only way out is to leave. (That is just where I am at with the thought of leaving.) We have children and he will be parenting them if I am with him or not and what kind of distance do you put between parenting and self? Where have any of you drawn the line? When was it time to try and a time to say goodbye? Is it worth trying? I have SOOO many questions and am looking for insight. Thanks!
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