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Panic or Paranoia?

deleted_user
deleted_user
My MIL took me shopping today. We still have a good relationship, even though I'm miserable.
We were in a mall close to my neighborhood, and I started to panic thinking that my STBX? and his OW might be there too.
MIL doesn't know any details of our breakup, and I'm so afraid of running into them at all, never mind with her there.
I know I can't hide forever, but how do I handle it if we all bump into one another?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Say nothing...let HIM explain.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hear, hear!!!
diemjs
diemjs
Good answer Courier! Very Good!!!!!! Do exactly what Courier says. Let HIM answer her!!!
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
I am not sure if avoidance is healthy.

If you are truly close to the MIL...perhaps you should tell her. It will probably make you feel better.

as for it being the wrong time... Christmas and all..and..well is it ever a good time?..

just something for you to think about.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I worried about it too.
I haven't run into my ex and his hoochie, but I'm sure that I will. It's too small of a community for it not to happen.
Now, I just know that I will handle it with dignity and grace.
We're all adults. And if I'm strong enough to have left him, I'm strong enough to play nice in public if I have to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I actually felt a lOT easier once MY HB took on him the task of telling both side's parents, since it was his fault in the first place. it is easier, really, then to hide the fact. you have to stop thinking about how OTHER ppl might take the news, you have to start thinking about YOUR life and what's easier for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had to be the one to tell my MIL and FIL. My H hadn't spoken to them for two months, and I was tired of dodging their calls. They were very supportive...I told them everything. They offered to "set him straight", which was funny. I have been accepting their encouragement and support ever since. I have even taken the boys to see them twice (they live about 4 hours away). If you don't want to hide, just tell her. It isn't your shame, after all.
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