Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm sitting here thinking about a time when I had a million questions,wished for answers,and waited for the day I could say my peace .
POLL is
1-The #1 question you want/wanted an answer for.
2-Did you get the answer or do you believe you may know it already?
3-Have you said your peace or what would you say?
MY ANSWERS...
1-WHY????
Why is he missing.Is he dead or alive.
If he's dead,what happened?
If he's alive why would he leave and allow me to wonder and worry like this.Why would he leave like this when I needed him most?
2-ANSWER
Yes...He's alive.6 monthes later just shows up out of nowhere with a woman to get his stuff and tell me he's married.
NO...He couldn't/wouldn't tell me why.He was just unhappy and it was most likely because of my family (mother and sisters)
YES..I figured it out for myself.He couldn't/wouldn't deal with reality and therefore moves from relationship to relationship,job to job,friend to friend,to escape reality and seek happiness he may never really find because he isn't happy with himself.
3.For a long time I thought I didn't get to say my peace.That day was chaotic (full of emotional family members,police,2 people who were once engaged,a new wife,and 2 best friends his and mine)
YES-I said my peace....
I wish you happiness,and after today,I never ever want to see or hear from you again.
What more could I have said to say my peace?
I could have yelled,screamed,ranted,and raved.I could have called him names and told him how much he hurt me.None of that being said would have mattered or changed a thing.I told him the truth plain and simple.I said my peace.
Your turn
POLL is
1-The #1 question you want/wanted an answer for.
2-Did you get the answer or do you believe you may know it already?
3-Have you said your peace or what would you say?
MY ANSWERS...
1-WHY????
Why is he missing.Is he dead or alive.
If he's dead,what happened?
If he's alive why would he leave and allow me to wonder and worry like this.Why would he leave like this when I needed him most?
2-ANSWER
Yes...He's alive.6 monthes later just shows up out of nowhere with a woman to get his stuff and tell me he's married.
NO...He couldn't/wouldn't tell me why.He was just unhappy and it was most likely because of my family (mother and sisters)
YES..I figured it out for myself.He couldn't/wouldn't deal with reality and therefore moves from relationship to relationship,job to job,friend to friend,to escape reality and seek happiness he may never really find because he isn't happy with himself.
3.For a long time I thought I didn't get to say my peace.That day was chaotic (full of emotional family members,police,2 people who were once engaged,a new wife,and 2 best friends his and mine)
YES-I said my peace....
I wish you happiness,and after today,I never ever want to see or hear from you again.
What more could I have said to say my peace?
I could have yelled,screamed,ranted,and raved.I could have called him names and told him how much he hurt me.None of that being said would have mattered or changed a thing.I told him the truth plain and simple.I said my peace.
Your turn
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Answer: None
Said my Peace: It's pointless....like talking to a rock.
It's long past time to move on and live my own life.
I'm happy now and his actions don't matter to me anymore.
One question I have is "Did you really marry me for love?"
At our counselling session three months ago he said that getting married "seemed like the right thing to do at the time"
"We'd been together it was either breaking up or getting married" he did not want to break uyp.
That hurt
The Answer - No....it wasn't.
I said my peace. More than once. Told her that if she ever marries again that I hope she thinks long and hard before doing it again, because people are not trash to be thrown away, They are not like cars that you trade in when the newness has worn off. (my STBX was married once before, her first marriage lasted two years, approximately same time as our marriage lasted.)
Answer: Will probably never receive one.
I said my peace, I said it in 4 pages, opened up my heart and soul to her, she has never written me anything.