Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
When did you separate?
Who chose to separate?
How do you deal with your Friday and Saturday nights?
When did you start dating?
What was the nastiest moment in your divorce or separation to date.
Your most powerful moment to date?
I'll go first
1. Sept 13 2007
2. I threw him out after he set me up to find a cell phone bill chuck full of text messages to another woman but not his girlfriend. He wanted me again to do all the work. Lazy cus.
3. Very lonley. TV sucks. Consentration not to good for reading. Prefer to talk to friends but my married ones are busy.
4. Not dating to soon. But I understand why folks start it gets lonely.
5. Big argument with the worst mud slinging we've ever done in our entire Married and dating life. He provoked me and we both lost it. I was so ashamed of the damage it did to my poor babies. They were sobbing at our feed when we finally came to our senses. Rotten day. I felt like a crappy mom.
6. Realizing that I and live on my own agenda. Having my X realize that I'm not at his beck and call any more...I have a life and sometimes I'm busy!
Who chose to separate?
How do you deal with your Friday and Saturday nights?
When did you start dating?
What was the nastiest moment in your divorce or separation to date.
Your most powerful moment to date?
I'll go first
1. Sept 13 2007
2. I threw him out after he set me up to find a cell phone bill chuck full of text messages to another woman but not his girlfriend. He wanted me again to do all the work. Lazy cus.
3. Very lonley. TV sucks. Consentration not to good for reading. Prefer to talk to friends but my married ones are busy.
4. Not dating to soon. But I understand why folks start it gets lonely.
5. Big argument with the worst mud slinging we've ever done in our entire Married and dating life. He provoked me and we both lost it. I was so ashamed of the damage it did to my poor babies. They were sobbing at our feed when we finally came to our senses. Rotten day. I felt like a crappy mom.
6. Realizing that I and live on my own agenda. Having my X realize that I'm not at his beck and call any more...I have a life and sometimes I'm busy!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
2.She did
3.work and nothing (lonely nights)
4. Not anytime soon
5. just before she left big screaming and yelling in front of kids felt like crap afterwards
6. do not have one yet
2. She said she thought we drifted apart, I tried a few days to discuss it and keep the split from happening, then I realized she was right and agreed to leave if she found me a place to live.
3. I spend a lot of Saturday's going to my chiro, so I also am with friends. Friday nights I Just treat like I used to, just nobody around to nag or interrupt :)
4. I don't know labels but it took me 4 months before I was sociable with anyone I didn't already know
5. I guess it was the day she ambushed me with her process server, but that wasn't too bad either
6. The first? I guess in 11/06 when I realized, Hey, I can go to Atlantic City on my own, and did.
2. He chose to leave. I chose to divorce.
3. Saturdays, sometimes TV, church, friends or familly.
4. Haven't started dating. I took the til death do you part seriously. Some days I fantasize about it, but I'm too old for it.
5. Ugliest moment, when he said he never really loved me after the first two years of marriage, but couldn't get out because of kids, etc.
6. Most powerful moment was when I had the locks changed to MY house. Very symbolic and metaphorical.
2. She did.
3. I work half of my weekends. The other half I get my children. On my days off during the week, I read the Bible, and other Christian literature. I also have slowly began to "get back in shape" physically.
4. Haven't dated. Too much to fix in me.
5. When I got served with divorce papers. The kids were with me.
6. The first two weeks were nearly unbareable. I was "breath to breath," not "day to day." Broken, I FINALLY asked God to take my pain and give me strength, and to do His will. He hasn't let me down. I wish I'd made this decision YEARS ago.
which time? the most recent, three days ago
Who chose to separate?
I did
How do you deal with your Friday and Saturday nights?
sleeping and online
When did you start dating?
not yet
What was the nastiest moment in your divorce or separation to date.
when my husband destroyed my laptop
Your most powerful moment to date?
everyday I'm still alive
2. He told me he was going back to Birmingham after I called the police the night before and I had to find a place to stay for the night. I told him I would not being going with him. He stayed until I could get on my feet or change my mind.
3. Friday and Saturdays I'm here with you guys.
4. I had my first and only date July 2, 2006. Now we don't call it dating, we call it laying up at my house.
5. The nastiest moment was when he admitted to having slept with this woman. But, wouldn't admit to the child being his.
6. My most powerful moment was when I realized I had done everything I could to save the marriage and it was time to let it go.
2. I moved out, couldn't deal with the emotional rollercoaster after I found out about his online woman
3. Keep busy with school. Love my friends, but most of them are always busy. This site helps, but sometimes I'm still afraid of being alone.
4. Not ready to date, still way to fresh/hurt
5. Big argument after a few months of distance (before that I thought the marriage was wonderful)... He provoked me and we ended up having a horrible argument...never got better after that day, he started spending more time online and less with me :-/
6. Getting my midterm grades---realizing what I've done in nursing school I've done for myself....I WILL make it on my own...I will be ok even though my husband chose not to love me anymore.
2.He did.He left and was missing for 6 monthes.I didn't know if he was alive or dead.
3.Fridays I work
Saturdays I do whatever I feel like that day (at home with my mom.I am one of her caregivers)but I am usually here on DS also.
4.Not started dating yet.Hope to but I want to actually find men that are dateworty first.I don't want to just go out with anyone.
5.May 5,2007. The day he walked in the front door b/c my sister left it unlocked.I had chaged the locks just in case.That was the day I found out he was alive.
6.May 5,2007.The day he walked in the front door again was also the day he left with my parting words (in the presence of a Sheriffs Deputy to ensure neither of us could theaten the other or say we were threatened. hahahahahaha.please.Although he was the only one searched for weapons.)
My parting words....
I wish you happiness but after today I NEVER EVER want to see or hear from you again.
His face dropped that was the only thing that bothered him after hours of dealing with police officers and family members to get his belongings out safely.
He didn't answer so I asked him.
"I will never ever see or hear from you again.Right?"
He nodded his head and left.
2-He moved out while I was away for work
3-I'm mostly with you guys here, unless my friends can convince me otherwise
4-Whenever I find someone I want to hang out with, and my divorce is final of course.
5-Not sure about nastiest, but most pathetic is when I jumped in the moving car, to get him to stay and talk.... in my nightgown. WTF?? Talk about losing my mind.
6-I woke up in Seattle, WA on 10/27/07, the last day of my little trip for soul searching, and realized I was done with all his bullshit. I've been a new woman since then.
2-He moved out while I was away for work
3-I'm mostly with you guys here, unless my friends can convince me otherwise
4-Whenever I find someone I want to hang out with, and my divorce is final of course.
5-Not sure about nastiest, but most pathetic is when I jumped in the moving car, to get him to stay and talk.... in my nightgown. WTF?? Talk about losing my mind.
6-I woke up in Seattle, WA on 10/27/07, the last day of my little trip for soul searching, and realized I was done with all his bullshit. I've been a new woman since then.
2-He moved out while I was away for work
3-I'm mostly with you guys here, unless my friends can convince me otherwise
4-Whenever I find someone I want to hang out with, and my divorce is final of course.
5-Not sure about nastiest, but most pathetic is when I jumped in the moving car, to get him to stay and talk.... in my nightgown. WTF?? Talk about losing my mind.
6-I woke up in Seattle, WA on 10/27/07, the last day of my little trip for soul searching, and realized I was done with all his bullshit. I've been a new woman since then.
2. He did, told me he loved me but was not in love with me, but if I need him at any time, all I am to do is call and he will be here
3. Friday and Saturday, usually here, or with family
4. Not even interested in dating scene at this point
5. Probably the day he told me he would rather be on the road than at home, been no arguments or really nasty moments.
6. Realizing that I will get through this, even though the hurt is there, just getting in touch with myself and being good to me
2. His decision, glad he made it!
3. Weekends no longer bother me, I spend a lot of time here though.
4. Had my first date one week ago and it was incredible!
5. No longer think about the good, bad and ugly stuff.
6. Indifference is BLISS!
2. He does not love me anymore, he left
3. Spent time on phone with Mom and friends, thank goodness for DS
4. Still to raw
5. When he told me he has felt this way for 2-3 years.
6. This weekend with friends, I am strong and good and have a wonderful journey ahead of me.