This has been on my mind so much lately. How do we learn to own up to our own crap. Within my marriage I realize that I was not always the perfect wife, that I was not as responsive to my stbx's needs. I would tell him that I felt a certain way because of his behavior. Now that I have been on my own for over a year I find I still have days of just feeling out of it, not any reason I can figure out why, but I don't blame it on other people. Well maybe still the stbx sometimes. LOL My children say things to me and that can just set me off sometimes. We all ultimately know that we can not change another person, we can influence, help, comfort, all types of things. And others can do this for us. But if we think that another person is the one responsible for our actions we are in trouble. I am trying to own up to the things that are mine. I have started being more open with my children, I admit when I am wrong, or when I made an assumption that was wrong. I find that people are so good at assuming they know what someone else if thinking or feeling. It is not true, we can't really ever know another person completely. My 7 children react differently to most things in life. My siblings have taken different roads in life even though we had the same parents. So in my next relationship I want to be able to own my own things. Just rambling.
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