I was amazed when reading the postings on another topic that other people have run in to my situation. My husband was commuting with a married woman. They started out as co-workers, became friends , statrted to flirt, and then finally started to fantacize about a future relationship fueled by reading Nicholas Sparks romances at the same time. When I confronted her about her intentions, the OW told me that she is just a friend and her children are first in her life and she would never have an affair because then her kids would think she was having sex and that would be "icky". I asked her to back off, not keep exchanging phone calls and give my marraige a chance for my children's sake. She got very cold and said "how long do you need, six years?" - a reference to my daughter age which at the time was 12 and she would be 18 in 6 years. I suggested until christmas- about 2 months away - and she said sweetly, that was reasonable, "but I won't lie to him and tell him he does not have a chance as you never can tell, we might have a realtionship in the future." Needless to say that was the end of my attempt at polite conversation. I think there are relationship preditors out there that do not always want your spouse for real but will enjoy the attention and have no qualms about doing or saying what ever in takes to keep the game in action.
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