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OW filing charges on me

deleted_user
deleted_user
Just found out the other woman is filing harassment charges on me. They are claiming that she is getting text and alot of private calls. The the stupid bitch called me a couple of weeks ago and I called her back so that is what they are basing it on. But since she claims I called her first a couple of weeks ago she is going to bring up everything I ever did to her. I am not worried about the claims for now but I am worried about the crap I did months back.
STBX went to my sisters & brothers house telling them them he don't want to see me go to jail so they need to tell me if I am doing to stop and that only one he cares about is our daughter. He is such a liar. He finally admitted that he is with the bitch. Well if he really cares about our daughter why doesn't he tell the stupid bitch to quit faslsey accusing me. Does he think this is going to make him look good? If I go to jail my daughter will hate him and his whore forever so if the whore cares about the stbx she should back off because if stbx gets daughter she won't be able to see him except at work. Its been almost a year so why do they get to be so happy and I am the one that keeps getting hurt along with my daughter. I need help.
solongbye
solongbye
I too tend to leave him messages that aren't very nice. I have really had to learn how to control myslf with this stuff. it is hard because he hangs up the phone on me and doesn't discuss what needs to be talked about. Stop now and then you can show that you are trying. Don't respond to calls from her, she has no reason to call you except to try to get you to react.
deleted_user
deleted_user
the OW cannot file charges against you! She can make a complaint, file a report. THAT's IT. From then on it's up to a police agency to investigate.

Just say you returned her call. More than likely police will just tell you "don't call her again".

If they had an open and shut case of harrassment then your stbx wouldn't be telling family members this stuff...wait and see what happens.

It's a domestic issue, my son is a police officer...it probably will go nowhere.
deleted_user
deleted_user
LOOK SOME STATES LET WIFE SUE OTHER WOMAN... check out your laws, she could be in big trouble I saw it on OPRAH a week ago, OW had to pay Wife 85k...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Love2fly is right. It's called Alienation of Affection.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If there is a protective order or 'no contact' order in place between you and stbx, it would normally also apply to harassment of his "friends". But, I would think that HE would have to make a complaint for violating the order & OW would have to make a statement to go with that complaint

If there is no protective order in place, courier is exactly right! I wouldn't worry too much about it. Law enforcement USUALLY is not too motivated to arrest a person on the basis of harassing phone calls/text messages. You may just get a warning.

BTW...if you do, I would heed it and don't lower yourself to her level.

Hope this helps a little.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The LAST thing some cop wants to do is spend hours on paper work taking someone in based on phone calls. This is going to be a she said, she said thing. I wouldn't lose a moment of sleep over it!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks everyone for the replies. I just hate it because I was researching some stuff and found out that if you are charged for harassment you child could be taken away from you. The police officer called me yesterday and asked if I was the one doing it and I told him no that I was getting a lot of private calls also and he said she is doing it o you too? I told him yes and he replied well if you are doing it to her will you please stop because I am tired of her coming up here. I feel like she is the one that looks like a idoit because she is filing charges on her boyfriends wife for gods sake. I am not worried about the charges now but the ones in the pass that is what worries me. Now all the sudden stbx is asking my daughter how I am doing why does he care.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks everyone for the replies. I just hate it because I was researching some stuff and found out that if you are charged for harassment you child could be taken away from you. The police officer called me yesterday and asked if I was the one doing it and I told him no that I was getting a lot of private calls also and he said she is doing it o you too? I told him yes and he replied well if you are doing it to her will you please stop because I am tired of her coming up here. I feel like she is the one that looks like a idoit because she is filing charges on her boyfriends wife for gods sake. I am not worried about the charges now but the ones in the pass that is what worries me. Now all the sudden stbx is asking my daughter how I am doing why does he care.
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