I ended a 16 year marriage and our divorce was finalized about 6 months ago. I had a relationship outside the marriage which continues and is going well. My ex and I had a lot of communication issues and not a real strong loving bond. We both take blame for why that bond did not exist the way it should have, we were more friends, then lovers. I am trying to move forward yet feel so much guilt that I did not make our marriage work. I know in my heart it was not the kind of marriage either of us deserved yet staying with her would have been the "right thing to do".Do I take responsibility for cheating,,oh yes,,I will have to take that guilt to my grave. I just want to move forward in my life and find a way to manage the guilt of our marriage ending, I have moments everyday of reflection when I feel so much anxiety and depression over the situation I helped create. Coming onto this site has not been easy but I need to move forward in my life and do not want to live with this guilt and anxiety forever. I am seeking solutions and want to be pro active to move on in my life. Any advice would be of great help, I thank you for reading my post and God Bless!