My husband left me when our daughter was just 4 weeks old. Ever since the seperation he has been asking to keep her overnight. At first I said no because she was just a newborn and it seemed like she was just too little and it would be too much for her. He takes our son (4 years old) every other weekend for 2 nights, and I am fine with that. Then he visits with our daughter all day on the Saturdays that he has our son. Anyhow, he keeps insisting that she should stay overnight and even filed an emergency petition for visitation to keep her overnight. She is now 5 months old and it still just seems to me that she is too little to handle an overnight, she is still nursing and I do not leave her overnight with anyone else. I did some research and spoke with my lawyer and the consensus seems to be around the time they are 2 or 3 years old is more appropriate to allow overnights. I emailed my STBX a couple of weeks ago to tell him that the general rule is about 2 or 3 years old. I also told him that we did NOT have to follow those guidelines and that we could revisit the issue after her first birthday (thats in 7 months). We now have to go to mediation because he insists that she should stay overnight and it just doesn\'t feel right. He accuses me of using her as a pawn and saying that I\'m only doing it because its the only thing I can control. This is absolutely not true, I\'m simply trying to do what I think is in my daughter\'s best interest. I mean he lives in a little room in the basement of his parent\'s house, he has no crib for her or no room for a crib. I don\'t know, he acts like I\'m trying to prove some point but he does not really seem to be thinking of her, he is the one seemingly trying to prove something. The reason I say this is because he offered to pick her up Saturday evening instead of Saturday morning and then keep her till Sunday morning (his argument is that it will be the same amount of time -12 hours- away from me) but my argument is it seems like he would rather keep her for 12 hours while they are asleep than 12 hours during the day when he can enjoy her more just to prove that she can stay overnight. I don\'t get it and I don\'t really know how this all works. He makes me feel like I am wrong but I just don\'t know. Any suggestions, opinions would be helpful. I mean I would never try to use my children as pawns I honestly think that she is still too little and she is still nursing. Am I wrong? Should I be allowing overnight visits?
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