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I have been thinking about this, because a dear friend has brought it up. You know who you are and I hope you don't beome offended. Hell, I know you won't, but it is a valid point.
So many have posted comments and posts about our responsibility in the breakdown of our marriages. It is not that we don't realize the roll some of our issues played in our marriage. We all have taken responsibility for this. The bottom line to all of it, is for the most part our spouses man or woman have laid out the final blow(s) ending it all. Why must we take responsibility for what they have done? Because they refuse to do so! Because they refuse to acknowledge their self destructive behavior! Because they want to blame the spouse who has been left struggling to hold their head above water, with their final actions!
Those of you thinking we should acknowledge our wrongs to help justify the end of our marriages, should stop and think about what their stbx's are tring to accomplish by getting you to take responsibility for their faults.
So many have posted comments and posts about our responsibility in the breakdown of our marriages. It is not that we don't realize the roll some of our issues played in our marriage. We all have taken responsibility for this. The bottom line to all of it, is for the most part our spouses man or woman have laid out the final blow(s) ending it all. Why must we take responsibility for what they have done? Because they refuse to do so! Because they refuse to acknowledge their self destructive behavior! Because they want to blame the spouse who has been left struggling to hold their head above water, with their final actions!
Those of you thinking we should acknowledge our wrongs to help justify the end of our marriages, should stop and think about what their stbx's are tring to accomplish by getting you to take responsibility for their faults.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
We had a long-distance commuter marriage for years (his choice) and I was naive enough to trust him to keep it in his pants. I offered to take a leave of absence and join him... he said we needed my pay!!! (Because he was blowing most of his on the OW).
He has told me time and again none of this is my fault. I hate reading the books that say I have to take some of the blame... Like h*ll I do... when the day comes that I have to answer to St. Peter, or God or whatever it may be... I can hold my head up high, and know that the only thing I am guilty of is trusting and believing in the man I loved!!!
At times I have about sunk to my lowest depths, trying to claim responsibility for what was happening around me.
I have a psychiatrist that I see once a year, and can call to slap me upside the head if I EVER Again try to take responsibility for this mess.
Yes, in a Normal Marriage, with Two NORMAL People, there are Two Normal sides to a story.
Not every Marriage HAS two Normal People living in it.
When you tell an abused wife to take Her Share of Responsibility-you can be handing her a bottle of sleeping pills and qt. of vodka and just not realizing it.
Some Spouses, don't care what sex they are, are just down right Evil. The only Fault of the party that is now in Pain is that they continued to Stay-for whatever reason.
I hope that I haven't offended anyone.
mmary, are you confused about the post or the bump?
There have been many posts about What was your part in the breakdown of your marriage? Why does anyone think we should take any responsibility for the final blow caused by the stbx's?
Is it that love is blind or are we just that friggin forgiving and love being tortured?
I finally told him I was done arguing our marriage. Well, actually I told him that for a year, but I think it finally sunk in that I meant it. Done and done. Why waste time on it.
Good for you, I am happy that you had this revelation.
I am going to keep bumping until a good majority of DS post our non-responsibility.